How To Set Up Core Values

Many clients come to me and they are lost. They have no direction or they have just had some major things happen in life and now they are rattled. they need to feel significant and in touch with themselves. They want to accomplish some great things but they are afraid to make it happen.

Here's what I do for them when this is the case.  I ask them. Where do you want to be in five years? once i get their answer, I ask where do you feel you are right now? It never fails that there is a gap between where they are not and where they want to be in five years.  I continue with other questions to get them talking about the pain of their current situation, why they believe they are stuck an what they will do to get unstuck. the simple answer is they have to define their core values.

So here's a simple exercise to help you, You will need about 20 minutes to do this exercise to really benefit from it.

• Look at list of values. I have a list that I can email you if you need some guidance on what the list should look like. It can be daunting to come up with your own list, especially since many values can seem abstract. I would say look for list that can provide you with options you may have not considered. These list should resonate in your heart and define your lifestyle. Once you find your list or lists, you want to choose as many values as you deem necessary there is no limit. they should be ones you embrace and emulate currently. We are not looking to the future on this exercise. Just the present and they should not be based on things you use to embrace. 
• Brainstorm a list of potential values.  now it is time to narrow down the values you have selected. No worries, we are getting to the core values, remember? So that means we have to start chipping away at the fluff. So look at the values you have selected. Start to really think about the people in your life and you interact with. These are the people that will be affected the most by your core values. For example: being a mom, wife, teacher, leader, friend, sister, mentor, business owner, employee, manager etc.. these relationships will be defined by your core values. How do you spend your time? Look through your checkbook what do you spend your money on? What are your favorite activities to do?
• Take a deep breath, you are doing great. No matter how many values are still on your page after chipping away some of the fluff, you still have some more chipping to do. I want to choose only ten core values that just seem to resonate with you more than the others. this will be hardest part and many of clients are grateful to do this segment with me. Sometimes it's hard to decide, but you must ask the hard questions at this point. Simply, do I really hold this close to my heart and use it to guide me in my decision making process? Also ask yourself; Does this define how I spend my money? Does it define how I sped my time? Does it define how I interact with others? Does it define where I will work, go to school or go to church? These questions can be helpful too. I also suggest that if you need more time for this segment of the exercise take it. Ask family and friends to help you by sharing what they think you value.
• Now that you have the ten core values, you are going to define each one.  Use a dictionary if needed, but I say write a definition that speaks to your soul. In other words, how will you know that that core value is defining your actions. What will it look like to you and to those around you.
• Last, you are going to prioritize your core values. Now this is really where the rubber meets the road. If you have done the above then you have ten core values that all tug and pull on your heart strings. They all cause you to want to be a better you, to connect with your inner self. To smile from within. they all have significant meaning to you. However, all that said, still some values will be more important to you than others. It is important for you to understand which one you hold in higher regard than the next. This will come into play when you have a tough decision to make about spending money, time, energy as well as help you work through conflicts.  Once you have prioritized all ten, notice and commit to the top 3-5 values. 

For more help on core values, contact me at 209-910-4055 or set up a strategy session. 

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Follow Up With Yourself

If you are a business professional of any kind, you understand the importance of follow-up with your clients and prospects. However, what about you? What about the importance of following up with yourself. You can read books, blogs and even go to seminars, but if you don't act on the newly acquire knowledge it is like shooting a dud bomb in the middle of a war. You lose!

Let me put it this way, would you learn all you can about your new client, her needs, her obstacles, and not get back with them to help them with the right products and services that you offer. Setting up your client for a potential sale would never do. Would you walk away from that money on the table. I think not. However that is what happens when you chase guru after guru, seminar after seminar and coaching product after coaching product and you never get results. It's not that the guru was wrong, or the seminar did not help, or even the coaching products were not a good fit. It's you!

Once you go to a seminar, buy a coaching program or follow a guru, follow up with yourself. Put a tip or two in to practice immediately. See how they work for you. Most tips take about 3-4 months to show results. so don't do for a week and convince yourself it did not work. Experiment with the techniques in social and professional settings. Dig for deeper motivation, remove negative thoughts and actions, try new props or substitutions, free yourself from drama. The point is Keep doing it until you find something that works for you. You are not made exactly like the person you gleamed it from so make it your own.

Here's something to think about actors build their technique one block at a time, starting with the basics , which is how coaching is designed to work. Master one technique at a time and build onto what you have learned with the next. You will start to see things are not as hard s you originally thought and you will start to see the plan work for you too. To borrow from Ali Brown, stop getting distracted by the BSO (Bright Shining Objects).

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group