Mind Over Matter

Let's talk about transformation. The way I will talk about transformation is going to be a little bit different than what you may be use to. I want to use my life as an example. In 2009, I want to lose weight, well actually i wanted to release some weight. If you lose it, it stands to be true that you will find it again. I was not trying to find anything. I wanted it gone and gone for good. Now it was not due to health issues or any other issue that I wanted to do this. I can say it was just that fact that I wanted to be thinner. I have been overweight for a good portion of my life and I wanted to see how I would look thinner.

So, I thought to myself, I am going to go a diet and diet for a few weeks. After I reach my targeted goal I would get off the diet and go back to doing what I was doing before. I felt I was healthy and did not need to change things to maintain my new status. So I announced to my Facebook friends and family that I was going on a diet and my cousin, said something very profound to me. She responded to my post that I was going to have to change my lifestyle. At the time I just shrugged her words off but as I started my journey I began to see that my mindset had to change. I could not just diet for a few weeks and go back to my same old eating habits or in my case lack of eating habits. I had to change the way I thought about food. I had to change my lifestyle.

More importantly, I had to know the real "WHY" behind wanting to be healthier. It was not just a thought to lose weight and release it. I had to put my mind over the matter. So, I found a diet, "Extreme Fat Smash Diet" by Dr. Ian Smith. I read the book and followed the direction just as stated. I made up my mind that I was not going to just diet but I was going to transform my life.

What i found is that changing the way I was looking at eating and dieting made a huge difference. I was not so quick to slipped up. When I realized that just because I was not having medical issues now, I was adding value to my life. I was making sure I stayed that way. My thoughts about not eating, my metabolism, my exercise and etc changed because now I was doing it to stay healthy. I did not have to get healthy but I did not want to remain healthy. Based on research my current lifestyle would not end well.

Long story short I ended up losing 36 lbs on that diet and keeping 20 lbs off and it has been 3 years since I did that diet. I still have a ways to go but my life has been transformed. I  eat healthier and I eat more often. My mind understands that it is a matter of life and death and I choose life. Once you can get you mind over the matter at hand, You will see that any thing you put your mind to can be changed. You can overcome any obstacle.

It's time you put you mind to it and get it done.


Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

The Five Questions of Transition

1. What is MY pain?

If you’re in a situation that requires change, don’t ask yourself what is your problem is — that’s not emotional enough. Ask yourself, “What is my pain?” NOT what the pain is; ask yourself what MY pain is. What is my pain in THIS situation? If you are candid, clear and intentional; an answer will come. It may even surprise you. Be honest and probe your mind. What is MY pain? Number two,

2. What is the resolution?

I emphasize “THE” What is the resolution? Not my resolution or my solution. Make sure you have a clear understanding of the word resolution, if you must look it up to refresh your mind. You may not know what your resolution is, but you know that there is a resolution to your pain. You just have to look around, and you’ll find it, which we’ll get to in detail during question four. What is the resolution? So first ask yourself, what is my pain? What do I want to move away from? Then ask yourself, what is the resolution? Picture a bull's eye target. You know the “Target” logo. I am not talking about the resolution as the target. So you have that picture? Now see yourself shooting an arrow that hits the middle of the red bull’s eye, Now shoot a second arrow that splits the first arrow in the center of the bull’s eye — that is how focused the resolution must be. I know it sounds dramatic, but it’s certainly visual. My hope is you’ll remember it. Number three,

3. Why am I stuck?

Why am I stuck with my pain and haven’t found the resolution? You need to know why you haven’t found the resolution. There are many ways to resolve conflict, pain and problems. So why am I stuck? In other words, what is the resistance I’m feeling? Why do I feel resistance? This is the most important question of all. You’d be shocked. Sometimes, it’s so trivial, like I didn’t get started with the resolution or I haven’t found someone else who’s found the resolution who had a similar pain (which is a hint about question number four). It is my hope that you journal each of these questions. Use a page for each to really explore them. Now, we are on the home stretch. Number four,

4. What is the process?

You want to know the process to get you unstuck from your pain and find the resolution, which is that center arrow being split by your arrow in the middle of the bull's eye target. The resolution has a process so you want to ask yourself, “What is the process?” By the way, it’s the resolution process, not the solution. It’s a process in and of itself. It’s the resolution process. That’s why you are here. Someone asked Ross Perot, “What’s the secret to success?” He replied, “Become an apprentice of someone who’s doing what you want to do.” Once someone gives you a combination to a lock or a safe, which allows you to open the door to the secret passageway to wealth and riches, you have it for life. Why reinvent the wheel? You just need to know the combination once — that’s it. Number five… is you ready for this? This is where most people fall flat on their face. They can define and understand why they’re stuck with their pain and haven’t found the resolution. They may have even found the process that others have gone through to get unstuck with the pain that’s similar to their own but they fail to take this fifth question seriously. So number five,

5. What is my first step?

If you’ve ever read David Allen’s work Getting Things Done, he says that it’s the next physical action. Is it a list? Is it visiting a library? Is it going to a website? You must define what your first step is and take that step. Once you take your first step, you will take your second one, and so forth. It’s physics — something that is set in motion stays in motion. A journey of a thousand miles starts with one what? One step. How do you eat an elephant, one bite at a time. We have heard it before but now let's apply it.

That is the five-step template into accelerating anyone into the process of making change. You will get more done faster, better and with the least amount of effort if you follow that — if you just simply give it a try.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

It Is Your Business Or Is This Just Your Hobby?

I remember a song sang by Billy Preston in the seventies called, "Nothing From Nothing". Do you? I remember singing along with this song and in my heart agreeing with every word. Even as I write this, the melody is bouncing in my head and I still agree.

"Nothing from nothing leaves nothing
You gotta have something if you wanna be with me."

What does this have to do with your business, your life or even your destiny. Well, I am glad that you asked that question. many go into business but what they really have is a hobby. They want to make money but they are not willing to invest. they believe that something great, fabulous and awesome should come from nothing.

Let's look at this way, If you invested in the stock market you expect to get a return and you understand that based on the amount of invest that is how your return will be measured. So it is in life. If you are not willing to invest in your business, then why should your clients. Meaning if you can't pay for the website, get a business card, get some paid advertising, and brand yourself, why should your clients believe anything you say you can deliver to them. You have not even delivered a professional looking brand.

In your life if you are not willing to go the distance and pay the price for what you say you want, then you cant get made when your family and friends cant seem to get behind you. People love to follow a leader. In order to lead you have to be going somewhere. I can not lead you where I have not gone. Meaning I must first make the investment in time and energy to know the path that is best to take. then I can lead someone else.

More importantly for business owners, we must understand that our business deserves our investment. We can spend money on shoes, hair, nails, clothes, cars, and houses but when it comes to investing in our future we all seem to be caught up in the here and now. However, there are a few of us understanding that in order for tomorrow to be better than today I must do something today to ensure it.

So let the words sung over 30 years ago, ring in your heart whether it be for business, life or your destiny...
"Nothing from nothing leaves nothing. You gotta have something if you wanna be with me." More importantly, you gotta invest in you if you want others to do the same.

Dare 2 B U NOW.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group