It's A War For My Righteous Mind

I don’t know if you remember the song by Elvis Presley called “Suspicious minds.” Well the chorus simply says, “We can’t go on together with suspicious minds. And we can’t build our dreams on suspicious minds.” So what does that have to do with war for your righteous mind…Everything. Even though he was talking about a love gone bad, many of us are trapped in our own snares. We tell ourselves that we can’t do things, that our dreams are impossible, no one has ever done it before, Who do we think we are to even attempt such a feat. I believe that is what a suspicious mind looks like. It puts ideas and thoughts into play that slowly but deliberately eat away at the hope we have of accomplishing our dreams.

We find ourselves not trusting even our own actions, suspicious minds. Can you see the war forming even in your own life? What lies are you telling yourself? What deceit are you forcing your heart to believe? It’s time you understand. More than a battle is going on in your mind. It’s all out war. There are two sides, positive and negative. Let me let you in on a secret, the negative side is winning. Why is that? We have given the negative more ammunition than the positive side. Once in a while we will win a battle against a negative thought only to fall prey to its evil scheme all over again.

Is there any help? Absolutely. The bible says that we are to be transformed by the renewing of our mind (Romans 12:2). This means that if we allow things to go on as they are, there is no way we can achieve our goals and aspirations. We have allowed our thoughts to be taken captive. They are prisoners of war and our dreams are killed in action. It is time we step up and take responsibility for our thoughts and change how we see our current situations.

Renewing our mind is a daily action that we must take. When we see ourselves falling prey to negative thoughts, we must remember “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13) More importantly we must live by the scripture that says, “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.” (Proverbs 23:7). How do you get your righteous mind? You have to renew your mind daily so your life can be transformed and your destiny realized. Use your mind, free your dreams.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

A Woman Healed of Life's Expereicnes

Dr. Susan Jeffers says, “Life is not a struggle but an opportunity”.  I know that there are some that read those words and said, “Yeah right, that is not true for me. I have suffered at the hands of those I love. My life has not presented any opportunities to me. It seems that when I think things could come together, they fall apart.” Well I understand your frustration and want to share a bit of my story with you.

I was raised in a verbally abusive home where I was sexually molested and witnessed domestic violence against my mother. I grew up to be angry and built a wall to protect me from everything. Relationship after relationship failed. One day I realized that the life I was living was just a shadow of what could be.  The pain that seemed to hold me prisoner was of my own doing. I was the one not willing to forgive.  I was the one not moving forward. It was like an epiphany, if I would just rise above my hurt I could see a better way of doing things. That day I made up my choice to surrender to God’s love and let the healing begin. I wanted to be free.  However, I knew that would take some restoration of my inner emotions. I would have to learn how to look at life differently, not using my own reasoning because it was skewed and fragile.

I sought help through counselors and coaches. I began to journal, revisiting that pain and allowing love to overcome me. The process was long but thorough.  I emerged a woman healed of life’s experiences. Healing comes in various forms, now as a Pastor and Transformation Empowerment Coach I help other women realize they too can live above hurt.

The first step can be the hardest however, if you are truly ready for healing to occur in your life then you will allow this step to take place, including removing all negative and unhealthy influences in your life. Many times, it is what we allow in our lives that hinder us the most. I had to deal with the past in order to maintain my present and secure my future.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Let's Just Face It, There Are Certain Things You Can't Change

Many people have a misconception about prayer, they think if I pray about it I will get what I ask for. Which to some extent that is true, however, let me ask you this, what happens when you pray and it does not happen the way you prayed it would. Well, let's explore this... I know, I know stay with me even if you are not a christian you will understand this, trust me.

Prayer is the contemplation of the truths of God from a higher standpoint. Prayer is not a monologue but a dialogue between you and the source of all knowledge. Prayer transforms situations, circumstances, and the one who prays. Whether you call it prayer or not. It is important to understand that we become that which we focus on, Yes even in prayer. Prayer goes hand in hand with mediation. Mediating on harmony, beauty, love, peace, and goodwill will open up a world of possibilities to you that will melt away all strife and heaviness.

When you ask a question about life, a situation, or wonder why something is occurring, you are praying. The important thing to remember is to wait for the answer to come. It will come. Many times the answer to our problems are not what we think is best but actually what is best for our situation, now and in the future. It is important to understand this, the answer will not only change your now but it will set you in a place to receive what is to come.

Prayer is not used to change others, but it is used to give you a higher sense of purpose. To allow you to see things from the bigger picture. It gives you a sense of unity with those around you and all living creatures. As a christian, I believe that prayer aligns you with the perfect will for your life through the knowledge that can only can come from God. Whether you call the source of life God or something else, prayer is your connection to it. So let me stress here, you cant pray enough in your journey of finding your destiny.

Listen, many times we want to change others,we want to have it sunny instead of rain, we want the rotation of the earth to reverse, okay maybe not but you understand we want to grow a few more inches after adult hood or want our hair, eyes or genes structure to change. Some people get into thinking if I think it hard enough it will be so. There are just some things we cant change. Prayer aligns you with what can be changed and helps you accept what cannot. In your journey, this is needful for your success to be a joy and not a weight.

When you pray, make sure you are open to what the answer will be. If you are praying for health or healing, death just might be the answer, it does not mean your prayer was not answered, it just means the perfect answer was death. If you are praying for success but you seem to be bombarded with issue after issue, work through them the lessons there will make sure your success is there always. Remember the answer to a question provided by infinite knowledge is not going to always seem logical to us but it will be the best answer and we will be transformed to a higher awareness because of it. So pray often, and let the best answer come to you by Divine guidance.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Learning to Say Yes and No in Life

Two important words we learn as a young child are yes and no. We learn at an early age that if you like something say yes and if you don't say no. However, as we grow up to an adult we start to learn that it is not that simple. I ask you, why not?

It's your obligation to say yes to all ideas that will encourage, bless, heal, inspire and motivate you to live a better and more productive life. It's your responsibility to accept only eternal truths; and to use spiritual concepts in your life as a guidance on this journey. However the same is true for saying no. We must say no to all teachings, thoughts, creeds and dogmas that inhibit, restrict and instill fear into our minds. To put it simply, we must say yes to the joys of life and no to anything that does not bring joy.

Many people just want to be happy. That is not a bad thing to ask for but more than happiness, we need to experience joy. Joy is something that can not be taken away with material gain or loss. As you make a daily habit of realizing these truths, you'll develop a radiant personality and create a channel for all good things to flow to you.

Many times we will say yes or no out of fear of the unknown, however, external events and circumstances are not causative. Meaning negative or positive conditions dont create other conditions. The primary cause - that which forms your destiny - is your thoughts and feelings or mental attitude. When we speak a yes or no we are speaking it based on these factors. Many times, we are trying to please external sources and our inner self is screaming the opposite. Whether you say Yes or No, it should be based on what is best for your growth. Therefore, decree that Infinite Wisdom and Intelligence reveal to you the solution. It's okay to take a moment before you speak to inquire what is best. Don't be afraid to say yes, even to something that seems uncomfortable as long as it bring a inner peace and joy. More importantly, cultivate saying no to anything that brings worry, stress, doubt, ill will or feelings.

It is important that you understand your destiny, and you answer according to it. Not everyone is on the same path as you and many will try to derail you so they can get to their destination. It is necessary for you to be steadfast and unmovable when it comes to finishing your journey. Remember destiny is the destination and purpose is the vehicle that will get you there the quickest. Do everything ON purpose and remember saying yes to wisdom and no to folly is always best.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Join The Destiny Seekers Inner Circle

The mission of The Destiny Seekers Circle™ is to provide insight and support for the conscious individual in a purposeful setting – focusing on authentic and empowering strategies to help YOU grow to become who you are destined to be.

What is The Destiny Seekers Circle™?

The Destiny Seekers Circle™ is a virtual community of conscious and spiritual individual, where They can come together to receive support, ask for feedback and resources, and discover new and effective strategies for become The person They were created to be in a low-cost coaching environment including monthly group calls, a private forum, and a monthly newsletter “A Better You Now” and weekly motivational e-mails with lots of tips.

“True discovery consists not in finding new landscapes, but in seeing the same landscape with new eyes.” ~ Marcel Proust

Who can join The Destiny Seekers Circle™?

The Destiny Seekers Circle™ is specifically for the individual who would like to receive support in launching a business, writing a book, taking steps toward new relationship, living a dream or vision. Typically speakers, authors, visionary entrepreneurs, stay at home moms/dads, those going through transitions and other that just can’t quite find their place will greatly benefit from this type of setting.

What does The Destiny Seekers Circle™ include?

The Destiny Seekers Circle™ includes:

* One monthly group coaching call – the first Monday of every month at 7PM Eastern, 6PM Central, 5PM Mountain, 4PM Pacific – these calls are open coaching calls, simply call in for your opportunity to receive laser coaching.

* Weekly email empowerment tips, strategies, and support

* Private group forum to ask questions and generate discussions on hot topics

* Support, encouragement, and accountability

* Sharing in successes, visions, and understanding

* Occasional guest experts and bonuses

* 1:1 coaching once a week for 12 weeks

* The Destiny Seekers Circle Journal™ plus…

* Get Inspired CD ($12.95 value Bonus)

* Discounts on ALL live events and coaching programs (Bonus)

“A Master Mind is the harmonious alliance of two or more minds that create a friendly environment to gather, classify and organize new information for fast and effective implementation.” ~ Napoleon Hill

Why would someone join The Destiny Seekers Circle™?

This is perfect for the individual who occasionally has questions about purpose, destiny, success and meaning. The individual who needs an answer on how to do something, or would like to be a part of a larger community and collaborative effort of support, while achieving goals and making their lives better now. This is for the individual who is tired of the mediocre and mundane. The individual tired of empty promises and pipe dreams and not interested in being plummeted by another get rich quick scheme or dream killing opportunity. So if you are ready to roll up your sleeves and have the drive, guts and determination to get in the driver’s seat of your life and stop being persuaded by the “green grass” in the Joneses yard. If you are ready to take care of your own lawn and sow your own seeds so that you may reap a bountiful harvest, then The Destiny Seekers Circle™ is for you!

Warning: This is for the individual who wants to live as they are supposed to live, the ones that know that they are here for a purpose and given the opportunity they will shine like the radiant, brilliant and unique star they ARE!

How does The Destiny Seekers Circle™ work?

The Destiny Seekers Circle™ is ongoing so it begins for you as soon as you register. You can begin connecting with other members, introduce yourself and ask questions in the private forum. You can stop participating in the circle at any time, no questions asked.

“The only things worth learning are the things you learn after you know it all.”~ Harry S. Truman

How can I join The Destiny Seekers Circle™?

It’s simple, just click on the registration link below and get started today. You can join the first month for only $5.00, and Then every month following that you will be billed $15.99/month.

**This is a limited price and after April 30,2012. The monthly price will go up to $24.99 and the first month will be $12.00 HOWEVER, not for those already participating in The Destiny Seekers Circle™. **

Here’s the recap of what The Destiny Seekers Circle™ includes

* One monthly group coaching call – The first Monday of every month at 7PM Eastern, 6PM Central, 5PM Mountain, 4PM Pacific – These calls are open coaching calls, simply call in for your opportunity to receive laser coaching.

* Weekly email marketing tips, strategies, and support

* Private group forum to ask questions and generate discussions on hot topics

* Support, encouragement, and accountability

* Meet like-minded colleagues and make valuable connections

* Guest experts and bonuses

* Weekly 1:1 coaching for 12 weeks

* The Destiny Seekers Journal™

* “Get Inspired” CD (12.95 value – added Bonus)

* Discounts on ALL live events and coaching programs – Valued at thousands of dollars – added Bonus)

You get all of this support and more for only $5.00 for your first month and then $15.99 for each additional month you stay in the program. Membership may be discontinued at any time. Remember, you are getting an additional savings for joining during this introductory period. In May the price goes up to 24.99 with the first month being $12.00.

What would happen if you had...

the opportunity to get ongoing ideas, tips, and inspiration to support you in your search and growth journey to live your authentic, complete and purposeful life and the opportunity to share your services and experiences with other like-minded individuals?

What would happen if you had…

the opportunity to ask simple and easy questions that would ensure that you grow faster, reach more answers, and expand your knowledge?

How different would your life look if you had…

* a safe space to get feedback, encouragement, and accountability on a consistent basis?

* more confidence in achieving your visions and dreams that you are implementing?

Remember the last time you were planning to transition to a new career, relationship, business opportunity, or maybe it was planning a speech, writing that book or etc…, but didn’t feel confident in what you were doing, how successful you would be, and what to say to others who asked what you were doing or thinking?

Just one more thing…

This is a powerful, low-cost solution to getting the support that you need. My hourly fees start at $500 per session – so don’t delay and take advantage of this incredible opportunity today! Remember April 30, 2012 is just around the corner.

Have additional questions, email us now.

Linda Hillman is the Transformation Empowerment Coach, helping the conscious individual find ways to realize and manifest their authentic, complete and purposeful life. Coach Linda focuses on the end result as a way to grow you to your potential more effectively and efficiently. SEE The Invisible, ACHIEVE The Impossible! Dare 2 B U NOW! (http://www.destined2bu.com)

**NOTE: Membership benefits are subject to change without notice at anytime.**

Logic Has It's Place

Do you remember Star Trek and the famous saying of Mr. Spock. He would always say if something was logical or illogical. He was not a man bothered with emotions. So when emotions came into play, he would always deem it as illogical. Many of us are the same way. We want our lives to come together and we want to be happy with our decisions and actions. However, walking in your purpose and fulfilling your destiny always seems illogical. The logic is just not there.

We have bills that need to be paid, we have responsibilities and logic says we need to make sure that we take care of all that. However, we are dying inside because we are not allowing the illogical and the emotional to have expression in our lives. Understand this, I know it's hard to make a decision without knowing for sure what will happen. We actually do this everyday, we live. We go to work, drive a car, take an airplane ride, etc without knowing if we will reach our destination. Okay, you are right, there's a difference in this kind of logic. However, the truth is the truth. It is illogical for us to put ourselves in harm's way each and everyday with such common actions, but we do. Just think, when someone does not arrive at a destination due to some tragic event we call it an accident.

However, when we do not arrive at our destined life, we call it being safe. It's actually just as tragic as the accident. Follow me just a bit longer.

When you are approached by a salesperson in a store or even in your home, you are looking for that person to establish a firm foundation based on your communicated needs, true customer service, common interests and honesty. this strengthens the reasons you buy now instead of later. Emotion, rather than logic, may prompt most people to buy that new TV, car, house, pair of shoes, or latest gadget. Of course there may be some buyer's remorse later that may crumpled the confidence born in the moment of emotion. When logic kicks in, you may return the item or, depending on how emotional attached you are, you will try to make it work into your current lifestyle.

The same is true for walking out purpose and destiny. You need to reinforce your emotional tie with your logical thinking. Listen a good sales person will reinforce your emotional reasons for buying as well as fortify them with solid, logical bottom-line reasons that you made the right decision. So when you are at home and working your budget, that remorse will not set in. You must be able and willing to do the same with your dreams. You must understand that reasons you are taking the chance on living them out in moments of doubt  and lock in the journey. Understand that logic has it's place but it's not there to talk you out of it but to aid you in why it should happen, and most importantly, why it should happen.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Change is Good

Fear of change is one of the biggest barriers to success that women face. Fear of change will cause us to stay in a safe job instead of moving on. Fear of change will cause us to stay with a man that will not respect us or love us they way we deserve instead of respect ourselves and move on. Fear of change will cause us to settle for less than we deserve and accept even less than that.

Yet changes come no matter how hard we try to avoid them. So you must be prepared for change to come and accept that change is good. The most difficult changes you will face (divorce, getting fired or laid off, losing a child or other emotional draining situations) will often bring the greatest rewards. No, it is not easy to change, especially if transformation is involved, however it is well worth it. I understand change is scary and unfamiliar. You don't know what to expect, and it hurts during the process. Hang in there, change does not occur to make you less than who you are but to add character and purpose. Focus on that. As the saying goes, "This too shall pass". Say that, as you travel the road of change. Believe me, it will help you through even the most taxing events in your life.

Identify in your life the things that need to change and embrace the change now. The more you fight it the harder it will become to move forward. Remember this, you were created to change. Seasons change, time changes, everything has it purpose and thus must change to allow growth. Tell yourself change is good and then make the change. See you on the other side.



Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Can Gossip Be Positive?

When you hear the word gossip. What comes to mind. Well, if you are anything like me, you think of the negative, malicious and hateful kind. Malicious gossip can be a powerful and persuasive problem in our lives. Our society seems to thrive on it. there is actually a national effort to stamp it out...called "Words Can Heal" (http://www.wordscanheal.org). Their mission is to promote the value and practice of ethical speech in order to improve our democracy and build mutual respect,honor, and dignity in our country. (or so I have heard :)).

Recently, I took their pledge (http://www.wordscanheal.org/takethepledge.htm). It it worth sharing here. I also took steps to become more actively involved. What I saw when reading up about their organization is words DO have power. More than that we can wield that power to help others. When you go and read their pledge you will see that it underscores how powerful words are and the importance of choosing positive words to express our feelings and opinions about each other. It is very easy to gossip. I should know I have done it a few times myself.

They give a real good tip for helping you to stop negative gossip, Before you say something that may shine a dim light on someone else to bite your tongue. Yes, Literally. Bite your tongue. Your tongue will hurt and it will remind you of the pain you could have cause someone else or your own reputation. The pain from the bite will go away, but you can not take back mean, negative and spiteful words.

So then I ask again, Can gossip be positive? Yes. If you choose to only pass along the good things. If you choose to spread the positive. Let's play the What if game. What if you only said good things about your enemies, What if you began to build up your children instead of tearing them down, What if you told your husband how great he is instead of what he's doing wrong. What if you encouraged your friends and family to be better...What if you started telling yourself how far you come instead of what you cant do? What would the world look like? What would you accomplish in a day?

Let me tell you this secret, it a big task but if you and I do our part we will overcome the negative words in the word. How about it?

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

You Cant Do That! Can You?

We have all heard the words, "You Cant do that". It either came at a time that we were branching out to do something new, going for a promotion, starting a new endeavor or etc. Whatever it was we were attempting, some level headed person told us"You can't do that." Either we were too young, too short, not enough education, from the wrong side of the tracks, I mean really it could have been a number of things that cause this statement to be said to us.

What I have learned is it not what is said to us that cause us to be fearful. It is what we believe. Did you believe what was said to you? Did you allow it to take root in your heart and mind and cause you to begin to sabotage your own success. Many of us do that. How, well let me put it this way. Remember that old saying sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. We would say this when someone said something hurtful and mean to us. But if you are anything like me you would say it and the words would still sting. You were wounded. After the first, second and third time someone would say something to you...you might even begin to believe it yourself whether or not you admit to your belief. The same is true with us now.

What we must remember is this, we are created and placed on earth to do extraordinary things. No two people will ever do the same things exactly alike. We are built to be different. Just like your fingerprints are different. each of us have a unique way of doing things. So what may work for one will have to be modified and adjusted for the next. even it is is very similar if you look closely your unique mark is there. It is what separates you from all others.

The next time someone tells you, "You can't do that." tell them, "Oh Yes I can, Just watch me." Believe in yourself the same way you believe a chair will hold you up when you sit in it. Believe in yourself the same way you believe that you will take your next breath. Believe in yourself the same way you believe that

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

What Is Your Real Reason You Do What You Do?

Recently I was asked, Why do you do what you do? At first I started with my usual answer and then something deep inside me rose up and I shifted in the midst of my sentence and started talking from a place so deep inside me that I become emotional. What i realized from that moment is that why I do what I do is more than I just want to help people discover their life calling and purpose. It is more than helping a person with low-sel;f esteem realize that they can be and do more than they ever imagined. That makes me smile and feel all warm inside but the real reason I do what I do is more than that. It is simply  about me. It's what I call, from my selling Mary Kay days, "My I-Story".

When you stop and think about it. You do what you do because of a change in your life. Somewhere, somehow, you made a transformation in your life that alter your reason for living. It changed you path and caused you to want to share that special feeling with others. You wanted everyone to know that feeling that self worth, that love, that success, etc was possible. I finish this blog with a speech from Tony Robbins a few years back at a TED Event: "Why we do what we do - June 2006"

Let me tell you what they are. First one: certainty. Now, these are not goals or desires, these are universal. Everyone needs certainty that they can avoid pain and at least be comfortable. Now, how do you get it? Control everybody? Develop a skill? Give up? Smoke a cigarette? And if you got totally certain, ironically, even though we all need that --like if you're not certain about your health, or your children, or money, you don't think about much. You're not sure if the ceiling's going to hold up, you're not going to listen to any speaker. But, while we go for certainty differently, if we get total certainty, we get what? What do you feel if you're certain? You know what's going to happen, when it's going to happen, how it's going to happen -- what would you feel? Bored out of your minds. So, God, gave us a second human need, which is uncertainty. We need variety. We need surprise. 

So, variety is important. Have you ever rented a video or a film that you've already seen? Who's done this? All right. Why are you doing it? You're certain it's good because you read it before, saw it before, but you're hoping it's been long enough you've forgotten, that there's variety. 

Third human need, critical: significance. We all need to feel important, special, unique. You can get it by making more money. You can do it by being more spiritual. You can do it by getting yourself in a situation where you put more tattoos and earrings in places humans don't want to know. Whatever it takes. The fastest way to do this, if you have no background, no culture, no belief and resources or resourcefulness, is violence. If I put a gun to your head and I live in the 'hood, instantly I'm significant. Zero to 10. How high? 10. How certain am I that you're going to respond to me? 10. How much uncertainty? Who knows what's going to happen next? Kind of exciting. Like climbing up into a cave and doing that stuff all the way down there. Total variety and uncertainty. And it's significant, isn't it? So you want to risk your life for it. So that's why violence has always been around and will be around unless we have a consciousness change as a species. Now, you can get significance a million ways, but to be significant, you've got to be unique and different.

Here's what we really need: connection and love -- fourth need. We all want it. Most people settle for connection because love's too scary. Don't want to get hurt. Who here has ever been hurt in an intimate relationship?  And you're going to get hurt again.Aren't you glad you came to this positive visit? But here's what's true -- we need it. We can do it through intimacy, through friendship, through prayer, through walking in nature. If nothing else works for you, get a dog. Don't get a cat. Get a dog, because if you leave for two minutes, it's like you've been gone for six months when you show back up again five minutes later, right? 

Now, these first four needs, every human finds a way to meet. Even if you lie to yourself, you need to have split personalities. But the last two needs -- the first four needs are called the needs of the personalities, is what I call it -- the last two are the needs of the spirit. And this is where fulfillment comes. You won't get fulfillment from the first four. You'll figure a way -- smoke, drink, do whatever -- to meet the first four, but the last two -- number five: you must grow. We all know the answer here. If you don't grow, you're what? If a relationship's not growing, if a business is not growing, if you're not growing, it doesn't matter how much money you have, how many friends you have, how many people love you, you feel like hell. And the reason we grow, I believe, is so we have something to give of value.

Because the sixth need is to contribute beyond ourselves. Because we all know, corny as it sounds, the secret to living is giving. We all know life's not about me; it's about we. This culture knows that. This room knows that. And it's exciting. When you see Nicholas up here talking about his $100 computer, the most passionate exciting thing is: here's a genius, but he's got a calling now. You can feel the difference in him and it's beautiful. And that calling can touch other people. In my own life, my life was touched because when I was 11 years old, Thanksgiving, no money, no food -- we're not going to starve, but my father was totally messed up. My mom was letting him know how bad he messed up. And somebody came to the door and delivered food. My father made three decisions. I know what they were briefly. His focus was: "This is charity. What does it mean? I'm worthless. What've I got to do? Leave my family." Which he did. The time was one of the most painfulexperiences of life. My three decisions gave me a different path. I said, "Focus on: 'there's food'" -- what a concept, you know. 

Second -- but this is what changed my life, this is what shaped me as a human being -- "Somebody's gift. I don't even know who it is." My father always said, "No one gives a s***." And all of a sudden, somebody I don't know, they're not asking for anything, they're just giving our family food, looking out for us. It made me believe this: "What does it mean that strangers care?" And what that made me decide is, if strangers care about me and my family, I care about them. What am I going to do? I'm going to do something to make a difference. So, when I was 17, I went out one day on Thanksgiving. It was my target for years to have enough money to feed two families. The most fun thing I ever did in my life, the most moving. Then next year I did four. I didn't tell anybody what I was doing. Next year eight. I wasn't doing it for brownie points, but after eight, I thought, I could use some help. 

So sure enough, I went out and what did I do? I got my friends involved and I grew companies and then I got 11 companies and I built the foundation. Now, 18 years later, I'm proud to tell you, last year we fed two million people in 35 countries through our foundation, all during the holidays: Thanksgiving, Christmas -- (Applause) -- in all the different countries around the world. It's been fantastic. Thank you. So, I don't tell you that to brag; I tell you because I'm proud of human beings, because they get excited to contribute once they've had the chance to experience it, not talk about it.

So, finally -- and I'm about out of time -- the target that shapes you -- here's what's different about people. We have the same needs, but are you a certainty freak? Is that what you value most, or uncertainty? This man here couldn't be a certainty freak if he climbed through those caves. Are you driven by significance or love? We all need all six, but whatever your lead system is, tilts you in a different direction. And as you move in a direction, you have a destination or destiny. The second piece is the map. Think of that as the operating system that tells you how to get there. And some people's map is: "I'm going to save lives even if I die for other people," and they're firemen. Somebody else is: "I'm going to kill people to do it." They're trying to meet the same needs of significance, right? They want to honor God or honor their family, but they have a different map.

The last piece is emotion. I'd say one of the parts of the map is like time. Some people's idea of a long time is 100 years. Somebody else's is three seconds, which is what I have. And the last one I've already mentioned, that fell to you. If you've got a target and you've got a map and let's say -- I can't use Google because I love Macs and they haven't made it good for Macs yet -- so if you use MapQuest -- how many have made this fatal mistake of using MapQuest at some time? You use this thing and you don't get there. Well, imagine if your beliefs guarantee you can never get to where you want to go?(Laughter)

The last thing is emotion. Now, here's what I'll tell you about emotion. There are 6,000 emotions that we all have words for in the English language, which is just a linguistic representation, right, that changes by language. But if your dominant emotions -- if I had more time, I have 20,000 people or 1,000, and I have them write down all the emotions that they experience in an average week, and I gave them as long as they needed, and on one side they write empowering emotions, the other's disempowering -- guess how many emotions people experience? Less than 12. And half of those make them feel bad....

What I walk away from this speech hearing is that I most know what drives me to do what i do. I have to know what i am focusing on, what it means to me and what i am going to do about it. Once I can grasp that then I know my real reason for doing what I do. The same is true for life or business. Get to know the real reason you do what you do.


Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Follow Your Bliss

Learning what your bliss or potential is will change your life. It can transform everything from how you see yourself and the way you look at the world to what you believe is possible for you. 

That kind of change can raise a lot of fears about losing your friends and alienating those close to you who are more comfortable with the old you. You may also fear that you are risking a safe job and a secure paycheck for a pipedream. Hidden obstacles that have been holding you back can also emerge from the shadows, blocking your progress. 

If you are a student, you might find that you have a whole new perspective on why you are going to school. And that could mean realizing that you need to change your major, choose different classes or get serious about your grades. 

If you are working, finding your bliss can mean you are no longer satisfied with your job and spark the desire to find new work that is more meaningful or fulfills your life calling. It could translate into needing to go back to school, starting a business or moving across the country to be part of the industry you feel called to. 

And if you are retired, friends and family may not understand your becoming passionate and action oriented just when they expect you to slow down and spend your days enjoy your grand kids and doing your favorite hobbies full time. 

Often, fears of financial hardship stop people from even taking the first step in discovering their bliss. They try to figure out how to make a good living before they even know what it is.

Which makes as much sense as trying to figure out what you are going to spend on airfare before you have decided where you are going on vacation.

All over the world people are being handsomely paid for excelling at the work their gifts and talents make them perfect for. If they can do it, doesn't it make sense to at least find our what you can excel at and love to do -- before deciding if you can afford to do it for a living? 

Creating a life following your bliss starts with taking the time to discover what your bliss is, and then start changing it so your life starts to reflect those things. With a shopping list for your bliss in hand, how can you go wrong?