Let's Be Real They Don't Like You

In the world of social media it is all about the like, know and trust. With hundreds of thousand people pulling on you each day what gets noticed are the post we want to see. Those from the people we know personal and have a vested interest in and those that we have gone to like over a course of weeks, months and sometimes even years.

In my many horrors of trying to learn social media I have made some horrendous mistakes only to find out after the fact that the mistake was made. NOT GOOD. As a business owner I was shooting myself in the foot and not even knowing it. When I stepped back and really looked at the Internet as a place to meet and greet people and make relationships just as valuable as the ones I was cultivating in my real life efforts. I noticed a change in my interactions. People started responding to me and that made me feel good.

One day I ask a friend that had been my friend on several social media platforms why we had not connected before. I mean we had know each other over four years. She said something that really shocked me. She said, "I did not like you back then." I could not respond. I sat there looking at those words that no one wants to hear or read. What I had I done to this woman that she had made such a determination. When I did respond all I could say was "Why" She continued, "You seemed superficial." That was another dagger in my heart. How could I, Coach Linda, be anything other than authentic? What was her real issue. As we talked she cut and paste some of my earlier post from Myspace, Facebook and other sites. My jaw dropped.

If I had been on her end reading the posts that I had put out, I would have not liked myself either. At times I was negative and confrontational, other times I was loving and gushy and then there were the straight sales pitches with no content value or connection at all. So, it was not that my offerings were not good, it was that the people that were reading them did not know me enough to like me and trust was no one on the horizon.

When building relationships, make sure that you keep in mind, be yourself. Those that are suppose to like , know and trust will and those that are not your target will continue to ignore. Ask a friend that you have connected with recently, what are your thoughts about me and what I do... You might find out the truth is they just don't like you.


Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Never Trust A Stranger!

Many people are more likely to believe what others say about you then they are to believe what you say about yourself. It's a human nature thing. In short, they expect you to provide clear proof of what you've demonstrated before trusting you and allowing a relationship to develop. Many times this can be frustrating, especially to the business owner, new person in the group, etc.

The answer is references. They are needed to "close the deal". I mean you see those commercial about buying a car, we are told to show me the Car-fax. If you ignore this need to be validated by those who have a relationship with you already you will miss out on potentially great relationships. Remember we are conditioned to what to see the "proof in the pudding."

Now this can work both ways, you will have those that sing your praises, they will always see the cup as half full. On the other hand, you will have those that will always see the cup as half empty. This is good for you. Learn from those who speak negative about an encounter with you. Ask yourself how you can make it better the next time it comes up. Learn from your past mistakes and keep it moving. However, you can also learn from those that speak well of you.

In achieving your goals, you must always be growing. Otherwise, your dreams will being to become old news. Keep in mind the Wizard from Oz. Those in Oz had never seen a hot air balloon when he arrived, they assumed he was some great being, but he lived in fear that someone would discover his truth. When the good witch came to speak with Dorothy and her friends, they were told the very things they deemed as negative were actually their strengths. Our dreams to do not require us to change, it requires us to learn and grow. Dig deep inside of us and allow are truth to be known.

Never trust a stranger to tell your story. You tell your truth from a place of inward reflection. those that are lucky enough to be in relationship with you, will see that you have what it takes to go all the way. Don't worry they will spread the news.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Are you Ready To Make Some Money

With the holidays coming up soon, many will be looking to shop online and or to get value for less.  All that said they are looking for great gifts and ways to make life better. However, many are looking for quick fixes that will not allow them to experience true joy. they are looking for a solution but truly understanding what they are looking for. They have tried so many things that did not seemingly work for their circumstances and their situations. They have questions, I have answers.


So where do you fit into all of this. Well, I am glad that you asked the question. Many of you are exactly where I previous described or you are frustrated with the transitions in your life. May be recently you have had a life change (divorce, laid off your job, added a child to the family, entered a marriage, went back to school etc) or maybe you are re-evaluating your life and wanting to make an impact but just don't know how. You lack the drive and passion you need to fulfill your dreams and passion is frizzing out quickly. As stated you have questions, I have have answers!


On the other hand you are needing to make some fast cash. the holidays are approaching and your would love to not have to worry about those after sale blues. Well again, you have questions, I have answers. So let me explain how I can help you.


In the first situation, I have coaching programs and services that will help you understand where you are in life and then give you clarity on where you want to go and explain how you can get there quickly. We focus on the benefits and results you will experience and the process just seems to make sense. You can go to http://www.lindahillman.webs.com/coaching.htm and get more information on my coaching services and go to http://www.lindahillman.webs.com/products.htm for the products I offer.


In addition, if you are tight on money and need a easy way to make money without adding hours of work or an additional job, you can become an affiliate for me. What this looks like for you...


You will start to promote my website, products and services. You can go to My Affiliate Program Link to start earning money now. You put this link in your online newsletters, on your website, in your email signature and anywhere you think it will get seen. Now remember if you are going to reap the benefits of the program you got to post it everywhere and make it attractive so people will click on the link. once they purchase any of the products and or services you will get a WHOPPING 50%. Yes you read it right 50% of the purchase. Many of my affiliates, target my ideal clients and walk them through the process. These are your family, friends, co-workers and sometimes enemies :) so you know exactly what they need because they talk to you and even more importantly they trust you. So why not, sign up today and start earning cash to make this holiday season a better one. See you at the top.


Don't forget to get yours, why not make 2012 the best year ever!

Be Empowered,

Coach Linda Hillman 
Copyright 2011 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group