Saying Goodbye Too Soon - RIP Whitney Houston

RIP Whitney, You will be missed. The many songs you gave that underline the soundtrack of my life will always keep you near and dear to my heart. I will always love you!

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

How To Feast On Healthy And Delicious Relationships—And Protect Yourself From Poisonous People By Martha Beck

The Company You Keep

As soon as you could bring your baby hands to your mouth, you instinctively began tasting everything you could reach, learning which substances tasted poisonous, which were tasty. You were born also with a set of analogous social instincts. As a child, you clearly felt people's affect on you. Some made you feel happy and safe; others scared or repelled you.

Unfortunately, you were soon taught to override your instincts. "Give me a kiss!" adults may have insisted. "Share your toys with little Chris! Be nice!" Bit by bit, you learned not to pull away from poisonous people. Now you may voluntarily interact with people who leave you feeling wounded, betrayed, or confused. You need to re-learn your instincts for keeping toxic people at bay and attracting nourishing relationships. You'll need two skills: Screening and boundary-setting.

1. Screening People

This is the mental equivalent of a baby's taste-testing. Whenever you sense someone is lying, hostile, or unsafe, you feel a set of subtle psychological signals that can best be described with one simple word: "Ick!" Safe, supportive people create an inner "Yum!" Their company makes you feel healthier and stronger.

To use your screening instincts, ask yourself, "How do I feel after being with this individual?" (Don't ask how you feel when you're with the person—social triggers override instincts while you're in someone's presence.) The "aftertaste" is your best screening mechanism. Use it to help set boundaries appropriate to your instinctive perceptions.

2. Setting Boundaries

Picture yourself at the center of infinite concentric circles. Someone in the ring next to you can touch you any time. People several circles out can talk to you, but not touch you. Those who are, say, 50 circles from the center have to shout for you to hear them.

Now think of someone you know. Call this person X. Imagine X standing in the circle next to you. If you feel an "Ick!" and want to physically pull back, X is too close. Move X back a circle—or two, or three, or 20—until the "Ick!" subsides. If you feel yourself wanting to lean forward toward X, you've gone too far. 

3. Find the distance that feels balanced.

This distance is a rough indication of how much you instinctively trust each person. Keep it in mind when deciding how much time and information you spend with them. If you must spend time with a person you mistrust or dislike, be polite but private. Don't leave your center circle by offering to do things for them or by attacking them. Simply don't engage.

4. The Nourishing Life

Screening and boundary setting may not seem "nice" to your social mind, but they're the best steps you can take to surround yourself with people who nourish you while relegating toxic people to a distance where they can't poison you. They'll make your social life healthy and delicious. You knew that when you were born. Reclaim your true nature and know it again.

Life coach Martha Beck is a columnist for O, The Oprah Magazine and best-selling author of Finding Your Own North Star and Expecting Adam. Her latest book is Steering by Starlight.

Give the “F” Word the Middle Finger

Dear Readers:

I found this blog today and wanted to share it with you. I hope it inspires you as it has me.

Coach Linda Hillman

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we by let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”—————-Marianne Williamson

It’s time to give the “F” word the middle finger. So what is the “F” word? FEAR!!  I am not necessarily talking about giving fear the finger but rather the same disposition you would have when you give someone the finger. When you passionately and forcefully yell out that letter word towards any and every body, is the same disposition you need to have towards fear.

Fear is anything that is not Love. Bitterness, anger, jealousy, hatred, negativity, resentment, depression, disrespect, procrastination, lying, gossip, pride, sadness, unforgiveness, etc are all acts of fear. We hide behind these things because in actuality we are scared, we are avoiding something, we think that these traits that we adopt, we become will protect us, will shield, will hide our vulnerability, will make us appear to be something that we really not, will keep others from knowing us, will keep us in control.

Joy, peace, patience, faith, humility, a smile or hug, discipline, determination, compassion, kindness, empowerment, listening, charity, goodness, forgiveness, loyalty, honesty, respect, self-worth, confidence, positivity, gratefulness, etc are acts of love.

So either you are operating in love or you are operating in fear.

Cease waking up in fear, living in fear, and going to sleep in fear. Today you must confront fear and it put it in its place. Today you must tell fear off, cuss fear, out, tell fear to shut up, tell fear it has you mistaken with the old you.

Just think about the entire nasty, negative, horrid things fear tells you about you, if those words came from another person what would you do? The same attitude you would have if someone dare to mouth the insults, spew the negativity, talk about you to your face, telling you ain’t good enough, will never be good enough, and crazy you even think that you were good enough that same, is the same attitude you need to give that little voice that pops and tries to derail you off of your path.

See when you confront fear, you are declaring war, so you must approach the situation ready to rumble, ready to scrap, ready to fight to the bloody end. And please believe ironically, as scary as FEAR is, as limited as it is, will not go out without a fight. So you have to come armored up, suited up, and booted up.

Fear is going to go into its bag of tricks and try to disillusion you with things from the past. It will remind you of the failures, the rejections, the heartache, the pain, the betrayal, the shame, the blame, the mistakes, the embarrassments, the weaknesses, the low points in your life.

They may be facts, face them, see them for what they are, learn from them, and finally release them. Realize that those facts no longer have to be truths in your life. You can’t change the facts but you can change the truths that you associate with the facts. You no longer have to keep feeding life into what happened. Disassociate your feelings from what happened negatively in your life. That doesn’t mean it didn’t happened, it just mean you are moving forth and no longer living in bondage. You no longer have to live in the “what happened” because you chose to live in the “what’s happening”, (right now today).

This battle, this inner self conflict will be ongoing. Please be reminded when attacking fear, you are not attacking yourself. You are talking to that false emotion that resides in you. So please do not talk down to yourself. Call out fear by its name, not yours because no matter what it may seem, fear is not you. Every time it rears its ugly head and attempt to stop you from moving forth. Attack it immediately, call it the liar that it is, the coward that it is. (I even challenge you to ask fear, what is it really afraid of. Take heed to the response.)

Fear is an imposter pretending to be us. When we operate in fear, we are not being ourselves, who we are supposed to be. Fear means False Evidence Appearing Real. That doesn’t just apply to the thing(s) that you fear that aren’t really real. It also applies to you at the time you are operating in fear. It isn’t you!!! So the more you allow fear to impersonate you and impose its limited beliefs on you, you will never become the real you and live your real life as you!!

You tell fear you can do it and will do it. Tell fear that God gave you peace and sound mind. Tell fear that it can go to hell, matter fact bind it up, rebuke it, and yell at it if you have to. Tell fear you are a child of God, you are moving forward, you are courageous, you are a conqueror, you are success, you are beautiful, you are healthy, you are love, you are whatever God told you are, You’re whatever your heart desire. Say it now I AM __________________________!!! Say it again, I AM ___________________!!! WHO AM I NOT BE, NOT TO DO , AND IF NOTHING ELSE NOT TO AT LEAST TRY WITH ALL MY MIGHT?!!

Drown fear out in love (traits listed above) by acting in love, being love, living love, believing in love, accepting love. Edifying yourself is the first step because you are declaring, decreeing, and affirming your greatness. You will not allow anything to get in your way. You love yourself to know that there is no truth in fear.

Please be advised, that fear will return, it always does. I listed above the different forms of fear, so it may display itself differently or it may use the same tricks it has before. Fear knows you well, well actually it knows the old you well, so it know what attacks would be effective. Regardless, when it’s your move, dig deep, face that fear(s), call it out by its name, smile, give it the middle finger, and tell it I CAN, I WILL, and I AM!!  Thank God, keep it moving in pursuit of your ambition and PREVAIL!!

Sharisa Robertson is the founder of Lilies of the Field and uses her testimony of overcoming abuse to help other women heal. She resides in Detroit with the love of her life and their three children. She’s currently working on many projects and is enjoying living out her dream. www.iamalilyofthefield.com

Dream It! Think It! Work It! Achieve It!

 "Your life's journey is about becoming more of who you are." - Oprah Winfrey

I was watching an episode of Master Class on the Oprah Winfrey Network and it highlighted Jane Fonda. Now, I would not suggest that Jane Fonda is a motivational speaker, however, many of the things she said resonated with me as far as being an entrepreneur and a woman trying to find my own way.


She made a statement about an affirmation about something that she thought she could not do, acting, changed her life and she found her focus. She found the very thing that would cause her to want to get up in the morning and live her best life.

Many of us have dreams and those dreams seem to be out of reach for us now. Maybe like Jane we think we are too fat, too ugly, uninteresting and forgotten. All it really takes is one person to see you for what is on the inside of you. On the inside screaming clawing to get out and make it's mark. Why not dream it now. See what is really possible for your life and go after it.

Once it becomes a dream, you will start to live, breath and think it. It will take over your conscious thought. It will become an obsession. You will have to start thinking of ways to make it happen. If you understand what it is that you love, your passion will cause you to form a plan to achieve it.

Once that plan is made clear to you, work it! I like to say if you work the plan the plan will work. If you put all your efforts into the achievement of your dream, your dream will gladly surrender itself to you. It will yield to you all the fruits of your labor and more.

Once you have achieved your dream, dream again!


Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Follow Your Dreams

How does one follow their dreams? Many times I am asked this by individuals wondering if my coaching will actually change their lives. My response is simply, Just do it. If you have a dream and you know that you have what it takes to make it happen then the only thing you can so is follow your dreams.

So here are a few tips to help you follow even the wildest of dreams you may have.

1. Dream Big

If you are going to dream at all it should be a dream that is beyond your comfort zone. It should be a dream that is going to require focus and initiative on your part. the best dreams are the ones that come with the disclaimer: "This is not for the faint in heart". The bigger the dream the better. If you are going to really change your tomorrow then you can not live by today's standards.

2. Write It Down


Where do you want to be in a year from now? How close to accomplishing your dream will you be in five years? How about ten years? When you write down your dream/vision, you will start to see clearly. The fluff will start to dissipate and the path will unveil it's self just like the yellow brick road in the Wizard of Oz. Remember in that movie the moral of the story was that everything that Dorothy needed to get home was found inside of her. She just had to know what was there and how to use it. When you write it down, the clarity comes and the path is obvious.

3. Do Something Different Than You Have Been


Have you ever rode a roller-coaster? What is the thrill in riding them. Well, at least for me it is the thrill of the unknown. I mean I can see the dips and curls and whips but to experience it is another thing. When I was growing up I used to love to try all the new Roller Coaster first. I loved the thrilled of telling someone who had not been on the ride that it's the funniest thing you can do not because I heard about it but because I experienced it for myself. The same is true for your dreams. You are a unique person and your "ride" will be different from the next person but get your ticket to get on the ride and don't talk yourself out of it. It's time you try it out first. Speak from experience and not from hear say.

You may look silly to others who are playing it safe. however, just think about it no one that ever made a living legacy did it blending in. Stand out and do something different. Get on that adrenaline rush of a roller- coaster ride and scream until it stops! Don't forget to raise your hands and shout! Look for the new and make it work for you.

4. Visualize the End Game


I am a firm believer that we don't achieve the success we want in life, whether it be personal, professional or relational, because we are afraid to see the end of the matter. We stay focus on the here and now. We wonder why things are not going as we planned them to do. The real problem is we use our natural eyes to see the failure, lack, and issues. In stead of looking at the love, honor, respect and abundance. We are not grateful for what we have therefore it is hard for us to think we deserve better. So here's a tip. After you have taken a moment to dream, and then you have written it all out. Sit in a quiet place with your favorite beverage and a journal. Close your eyes and see yourself living your dream. what does it look like, how does it feel, What will change and what will remain the same.

Once you have visualized it in your head. Write it all down staring with a month from now, to six months from now, then a year from now, five years, ten years, twenty years even. From the moment that you are do this exercise, allow yourself to really explore every aspect of this life you will lead.

5. Connect, Connect and Connect Some More


There is not a lot to say about this other than this: We are not an island to ourselves and we need each other if we are going to enjoy this life. Whether you are a business owner, or a Executive or even a housewife or Mr. Mom. one thing i true we all have circle of friends that know like and trust us. You can get out into the community and build alliances with others in a similar business. Relationships whether they are personal or professional is what keeps the world going forward. If you plan to achieve your dreams. Take a moment to get to know your neighbors, the leaders in your community and other pertinent figures. Talk about THEM and be true to who you are at all times. A well placed connections will blossom into a vineyard of  possibilities. Don't look down on networking and meeting new people. It's actually what makes the world go around.

Now go and follow those dreams, wherever they may lead.


Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

The Five Questions of Transition

1. What is MY pain?

If you’re in a situation that requires change, don’t ask yourself what is your problem is — that’s not emotional enough. Ask yourself, “What is my pain?” NOT what the pain is; ask yourself what MY pain is. What is my pain in THIS situation? If you are candid, clear and intentional; an answer will come. It may even surprise you. Be honest and probe your mind. What is MY pain? Number two,

2. What is the resolution?

I emphasize “THE” What is the resolution? Not my resolution or my solution. Make sure you have a clear understanding of the word resolution, if you must look it up to refresh your mind. You may not know what your resolution is, but you know that there is a resolution to your pain. You just have to look around, and you’ll find it, which we’ll get to in detail during question four. What is the resolution? So first ask yourself, what is my pain? What do I want to move away from? Then ask yourself, what is the resolution? Picture a bull's eye target. You know the “Target” logo. I am not talking about the resolution as the target. So you have that picture? Now see yourself shooting an arrow that hits the middle of the red bull’s eye, Now shoot a second arrow that splits the first arrow in the center of the bull’s eye — that is how focused the resolution must be. I know it sounds dramatic, but it’s certainly visual. My hope is you’ll remember it. Number three,

3. Why am I stuck?

Why am I stuck with my pain and haven’t found the resolution? You need to know why you haven’t found the resolution. There are many ways to resolve conflict, pain and problems. So why am I stuck? In other words, what is the resistance I’m feeling? Why do I feel resistance? This is the most important question of all. You’d be shocked. Sometimes, it’s so trivial, like I didn’t get started with the resolution or I haven’t found someone else who’s found the resolution who had a similar pain (which is a hint about question number four). It is my hope that you journal each of these questions. Use a page for each to really explore them. Now, we are on the home stretch. Number four,

4. What is the process?

You want to know the process to get you unstuck from your pain and find the resolution, which is that center arrow being split by your arrow in the middle of the bull's eye target. The resolution has a process so you want to ask yourself, “What is the process?” By the way, it’s the resolution process, not the solution. It’s a process in and of itself. It’s the resolution process. That’s why you are here. Someone asked Ross Perot, “What’s the secret to success?” He replied, “Become an apprentice of someone who’s doing what you want to do.” Once someone gives you a combination to a lock or a safe, which allows you to open the door to the secret passageway to wealth and riches, you have it for life. Why reinvent the wheel? You just need to know the combination once — that’s it. Number five… is you ready for this? This is where most people fall flat on their face. They can define and understand why they’re stuck with their pain and haven’t found the resolution. They may have even found the process that others have gone through to get unstuck with the pain that’s similar to their own but they fail to take this fifth question seriously. So number five,

5. What is my first step?

If you’ve ever read David Allen’s work Getting Things Done, he says that it’s the next physical action. Is it a list? Is it visiting a library? Is it going to a website? You must define what your first step is and take that step. Once you take your first step, you will take your second one, and so forth. It’s physics — something that is set in motion stays in motion. A journey of a thousand miles starts with one what? One step. How do you eat an elephant, one bite at a time. We have heard it before but now let's apply it.

That is the five-step template into accelerating anyone into the process of making change. You will get more done faster, better and with the least amount of effort if you follow that — if you just simply give it a try.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

It Is Your Business Or Is This Just Your Hobby?

I remember a song sang by Billy Preston in the seventies called, "Nothing From Nothing". Do you? I remember singing along with this song and in my heart agreeing with every word. Even as I write this, the melody is bouncing in my head and I still agree.

"Nothing from nothing leaves nothing
You gotta have something if you wanna be with me."

What does this have to do with your business, your life or even your destiny. Well, I am glad that you asked that question. many go into business but what they really have is a hobby. They want to make money but they are not willing to invest. they believe that something great, fabulous and awesome should come from nothing.

Let's look at this way, If you invested in the stock market you expect to get a return and you understand that based on the amount of invest that is how your return will be measured. So it is in life. If you are not willing to invest in your business, then why should your clients. Meaning if you can't pay for the website, get a business card, get some paid advertising, and brand yourself, why should your clients believe anything you say you can deliver to them. You have not even delivered a professional looking brand.

In your life if you are not willing to go the distance and pay the price for what you say you want, then you cant get made when your family and friends cant seem to get behind you. People love to follow a leader. In order to lead you have to be going somewhere. I can not lead you where I have not gone. Meaning I must first make the investment in time and energy to know the path that is best to take. then I can lead someone else.

More importantly for business owners, we must understand that our business deserves our investment. We can spend money on shoes, hair, nails, clothes, cars, and houses but when it comes to investing in our future we all seem to be caught up in the here and now. However, there are a few of us understanding that in order for tomorrow to be better than today I must do something today to ensure it.

So let the words sung over 30 years ago, ring in your heart whether it be for business, life or your destiny...
"Nothing from nothing leaves nothing. You gotta have something if you wanna be with me." More importantly, you gotta invest in you if you want others to do the same.

Dare 2 B U NOW.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Do You Have Vision?

Many people are talking about vision boards. What exactly is a vision board and why do you need one. More importantly than that do they really work?

Let me start with what is a vision board. A vision board is a collage of pictures, statements, ideas that represent things your want to attract to your life. It is just that simple.

So now, let us talk about why you would need a vision board. Many of us focus on the day in and day out things that happen in our lives. However, if the circumstances of our lives are negative, then we tend to focus on that negativity and we miss the wonderful things trying to change our lives. With a vision board, it helps you to see where you want to go instead of where you are. It helps you to focus on the possibilities. So it redirects your energy to stretch beyond the here and now, thus allowing you to attract the positive and eliminate the negative.

Now, let us go off course a bit and talk about the wonder of a vision board party. Sometimes in our lives, we are so busy. We may want to try to create a vision board but left to our devices, it just something that never gets done because there is always something more pressing that cutting out pictures and gluing them to a poster board. Therefore, it never is completed. A vision board party says, "I am going to take a few hours out of my busy schedule hang with some friends and dream. I will laugh, chat, eat and be inspired to achieve my goals with friends that are ready for the a great life." Not only do you get to build some awesome memories with those in attendance of the party but also you get to accomplish something that will change your life and those that attend.

Here are a few tips on having a successful vision board party:

Invite your friends. Do not invite those that have a negative attitude. This party should be the one place you can tap into your inner child. It is time to dream and no dream is too small or big, actually the bigger the better. You can send out invites but a simple email will do just fine for this. Remember it is a time to have fun so do not stress over it. Make sure you take your vitamins and tell your guest to bring their electrifying energy, who knows what will happen and what memories this will bring for years to come.

Request each guest to bring a pair of scissors, glue stick, a stack of old magazines, and an appetizer (dessert, finger foods, bottle of wine or juice). I also include their favorite CD of music what is a party without some dancing music.

Once you have an estimate of how many guest will attend. Go to your local dollar store and buy a poster board for each person attending. (I like to buy different colored ones but you can get all white, it really up to you). You can also purchase a handful of glue sticks to make sure that you have enough in case a guest forgets to bring one. Some markers, crayons, colored pencils and extra scissors are great to have also. If you are an arts and crafts type of individual, swatches of material, lace, beads and gems are a great addition too. (You can even assign certain items to guest if you like.) Do not forget to get some snacks to share and drinks too.

On the day of the party, you can:

Start with introductions and intentions, especially if there are individuals who may not know each other. Have each guest state their name and what they hope to achieve with their vision board.

Put on the music and get to work. Each guest can start with signing the back of the vision board (I do this because it gives me a sense of ownership. Like this is MY vision and it's empowering.) Then start clipping pictures from magazines. Leave no magazine un-shredded. Lay out the general design for your board. I always say put the largest image (which should be your most important desire) in the center of the board.

Make sure they all get it finished that night. Many times people leave with a few things to do to their vision board and never get it done. It is better to leave with a finished board. It is okay to leave some space for additional pictures to be added as you find them but the general idea should be completed at the party. Also, do not make your board to chaotic because you may bring chaos to your life and that would defeat your purpose!

Finally, just eat, drink and be MERRY! Laugh often and dream big!

Now does it really WORK? My answer is YES! Why does it work? Well, if you truly believe that you should live a fulfilling life and have the things you desire on your vision board, and you are open to the realization of your intentions, it will come to you. Do not put a lot of thought in the "how" you just hold on to the “what” will happen. When you are open to your dreams manifesting, they will find their way to you. You work the plan and the plan will work. You look at the board daily. Put it in a place where it is always a reminder of what you want. Attract what you want, deflect what you do not want and you will receive everything on your board. You get what you focus on!

Now start to dream big!


Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Are you Ready To Make Some Money

With the holidays coming up soon, many will be looking to shop online and or to get value for less.  All that said they are looking for great gifts and ways to make life better. However, many are looking for quick fixes that will not allow them to experience true joy. they are looking for a solution but truly understanding what they are looking for. They have tried so many things that did not seemingly work for their circumstances and their situations. They have questions, I have answers.


So where do you fit into all of this. Well, I am glad that you asked the question. Many of you are exactly where I previous described or you are frustrated with the transitions in your life. May be recently you have had a life change (divorce, laid off your job, added a child to the family, entered a marriage, went back to school etc) or maybe you are re-evaluating your life and wanting to make an impact but just don't know how. You lack the drive and passion you need to fulfill your dreams and passion is frizzing out quickly. As stated you have questions, I have have answers!


On the other hand you are needing to make some fast cash. the holidays are approaching and your would love to not have to worry about those after sale blues. Well again, you have questions, I have answers. So let me explain how I can help you.


In the first situation, I have coaching programs and services that will help you understand where you are in life and then give you clarity on where you want to go and explain how you can get there quickly. We focus on the benefits and results you will experience and the process just seems to make sense. You can go to http://www.lindahillman.webs.com/coaching.htm and get more information on my coaching services and go to http://www.lindahillman.webs.com/products.htm for the products I offer.


In addition, if you are tight on money and need a easy way to make money without adding hours of work or an additional job, you can become an affiliate for me. What this looks like for you...


You will start to promote my website, products and services. You can go to My Affiliate Program Link to start earning money now. You put this link in your online newsletters, on your website, in your email signature and anywhere you think it will get seen. Now remember if you are going to reap the benefits of the program you got to post it everywhere and make it attractive so people will click on the link. once they purchase any of the products and or services you will get a WHOPPING 50%. Yes you read it right 50% of the purchase. Many of my affiliates, target my ideal clients and walk them through the process. These are your family, friends, co-workers and sometimes enemies :) so you know exactly what they need because they talk to you and even more importantly they trust you. So why not, sign up today and start earning cash to make this holiday season a better one. See you at the top.


Don't forget to get yours, why not make 2012 the best year ever!

Be Empowered,

Coach Linda Hillman 
Copyright 2011 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

6 Keys to break the Poverty Mindset by Dani Johnson

It’s all in the mind, they say – and on some level, they’re absolutely correct. Habits formed in your mind have kept you from financial success in life – so make this your time to start developing a healthy foundation for financial prosperity!

Do you have a poverty mindset? Take a look at these 6 quick tips from Dani Johnson to help you identify what a poverty mindset looks like – and how to break it once and for all!

1. Your Environment Is Everything
Dani grew up on welfare with parents who ran out of money continuously – then used what money they did have for drugs. There was abuse, no peace, no security. Growing up in that environment absolutely shapes one’s mind about money and life. There was no budgeting to help make their money last; they would blow it all on junk food, alcohol and drugs – then act like victims until the next check arrived. Change your environment – change your financial future. 

2. Don’t Speak The Language Of Poverty
How many hours do we spend in school learning financial wisdom? Zero! So where do you learn your financial habits? From other adults, mainly your parents. If your parents spent foolishly, their actions taught you to spend foolishly. If your parents spent wisely, you would gravitate towards wisdom in finances. Dani grew up with the language of poverty that sounds like “we can’t afford it,” or “we don’t have the money” or “that’s for rich people, not us.” All those statements are victimized, poverty statements. Change your language, and you change your financial future. 

3. Eliminate Unhealthy Financial Traditions
Unhealthy traditions pass from one generation to the next. If you are serious about breaking yours, you can succeed. How?

• Make a decision: Do you like where you are financially? Are you tired of the pressure of debt? If so, decide today to do whatever it takes to achieve financial independence.
• Learn some new skills to replace the poor skills you learned from those around you.
• Repetition is the mother of skill. Through repetition you learned poor financial skills; through repetition you will learn great financial skills. Beware who you learn from. You should learn from someone who has a lot of money – not just someone who looks the part. Most people are far from reaching their goal of financial independence.

Change your traditions, and you change your financial future. 

4. Understand The Power Of Repetition
We learned how to walk, talk and eat by watching those around us. Everything we know how to do, we learned – or were at least were influenced by those around us. Have you ever said, “I will never be like…” or swore to do things differently from your parents, only to find yourself saying and doing those exact things? History repeats itself! Decisions made without establishing new skills will lead to failure of the decisions becoming a reality. Change your habits, and you change your financial future. 

5. A Solid Financial Foundation Starts Early
Your children are always listening and watching, whether you realize it or not. Groom them for success instead of unintentionally grooming them for failure. Their success will come from you. Grooming the Next Generation for Success will help you teach kids to succeed now and in the future. When they learn while young, success becomes a part of their very fiber instead of hoping they will succeed they will be groomed to succeed! Help someone else succeed, and you change your financial future. 

6. Take Action!
If you’ve gotten this far, know that you have been chosen to prevent those negative traditions from passing through you. Solomon, the richest man who ever lived, said: “A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it.” Don’t be stupid! If thousands of Dani’s clients can follow her teachings and experience financial success, so can you. Don’t let this be another article you read and put away. Take action today. Start learning the difference between wise and foolish spending. Learn how to create assets instead of liabilities.