The Five Questions of Transition

1. What is MY pain?

If you’re in a situation that requires change, don’t ask yourself what is your problem is — that’s not emotional enough. Ask yourself, “What is my pain?” NOT what the pain is; ask yourself what MY pain is. What is my pain in THIS situation? If you are candid, clear and intentional; an answer will come. It may even surprise you. Be honest and probe your mind. What is MY pain? Number two,

2. What is the resolution?

I emphasize “THE” What is the resolution? Not my resolution or my solution. Make sure you have a clear understanding of the word resolution, if you must look it up to refresh your mind. You may not know what your resolution is, but you know that there is a resolution to your pain. You just have to look around, and you’ll find it, which we’ll get to in detail during question four. What is the resolution? So first ask yourself, what is my pain? What do I want to move away from? Then ask yourself, what is the resolution? Picture a bull's eye target. You know the “Target” logo. I am not talking about the resolution as the target. So you have that picture? Now see yourself shooting an arrow that hits the middle of the red bull’s eye, Now shoot a second arrow that splits the first arrow in the center of the bull’s eye — that is how focused the resolution must be. I know it sounds dramatic, but it’s certainly visual. My hope is you’ll remember it. Number three,

3. Why am I stuck?

Why am I stuck with my pain and haven’t found the resolution? You need to know why you haven’t found the resolution. There are many ways to resolve conflict, pain and problems. So why am I stuck? In other words, what is the resistance I’m feeling? Why do I feel resistance? This is the most important question of all. You’d be shocked. Sometimes, it’s so trivial, like I didn’t get started with the resolution or I haven’t found someone else who’s found the resolution who had a similar pain (which is a hint about question number four). It is my hope that you journal each of these questions. Use a page for each to really explore them. Now, we are on the home stretch. Number four,

4. What is the process?

You want to know the process to get you unstuck from your pain and find the resolution, which is that center arrow being split by your arrow in the middle of the bull's eye target. The resolution has a process so you want to ask yourself, “What is the process?” By the way, it’s the resolution process, not the solution. It’s a process in and of itself. It’s the resolution process. That’s why you are here. Someone asked Ross Perot, “What’s the secret to success?” He replied, “Become an apprentice of someone who’s doing what you want to do.” Once someone gives you a combination to a lock or a safe, which allows you to open the door to the secret passageway to wealth and riches, you have it for life. Why reinvent the wheel? You just need to know the combination once — that’s it. Number five… is you ready for this? This is where most people fall flat on their face. They can define and understand why they’re stuck with their pain and haven’t found the resolution. They may have even found the process that others have gone through to get unstuck with the pain that’s similar to their own but they fail to take this fifth question seriously. So number five,

5. What is my first step?

If you’ve ever read David Allen’s work Getting Things Done, he says that it’s the next physical action. Is it a list? Is it visiting a library? Is it going to a website? You must define what your first step is and take that step. Once you take your first step, you will take your second one, and so forth. It’s physics — something that is set in motion stays in motion. A journey of a thousand miles starts with one what? One step. How do you eat an elephant, one bite at a time. We have heard it before but now let's apply it.

That is the five-step template into accelerating anyone into the process of making change. You will get more done faster, better and with the least amount of effort if you follow that — if you just simply give it a try.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

It Is Your Business Or Is This Just Your Hobby?

I remember a song sang by Billy Preston in the seventies called, "Nothing From Nothing". Do you? I remember singing along with this song and in my heart agreeing with every word. Even as I write this, the melody is bouncing in my head and I still agree.

"Nothing from nothing leaves nothing
You gotta have something if you wanna be with me."

What does this have to do with your business, your life or even your destiny. Well, I am glad that you asked that question. many go into business but what they really have is a hobby. They want to make money but they are not willing to invest. they believe that something great, fabulous and awesome should come from nothing.

Let's look at this way, If you invested in the stock market you expect to get a return and you understand that based on the amount of invest that is how your return will be measured. So it is in life. If you are not willing to invest in your business, then why should your clients. Meaning if you can't pay for the website, get a business card, get some paid advertising, and brand yourself, why should your clients believe anything you say you can deliver to them. You have not even delivered a professional looking brand.

In your life if you are not willing to go the distance and pay the price for what you say you want, then you cant get made when your family and friends cant seem to get behind you. People love to follow a leader. In order to lead you have to be going somewhere. I can not lead you where I have not gone. Meaning I must first make the investment in time and energy to know the path that is best to take. then I can lead someone else.

More importantly for business owners, we must understand that our business deserves our investment. We can spend money on shoes, hair, nails, clothes, cars, and houses but when it comes to investing in our future we all seem to be caught up in the here and now. However, there are a few of us understanding that in order for tomorrow to be better than today I must do something today to ensure it.

So let the words sung over 30 years ago, ring in your heart whether it be for business, life or your destiny...
"Nothing from nothing leaves nothing. You gotta have something if you wanna be with me." More importantly, you gotta invest in you if you want others to do the same.

Dare 2 B U NOW.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group

Do You Have Vision?

Many people are talking about vision boards. What exactly is a vision board and why do you need one. More importantly than that do they really work?

Let me start with what is a vision board. A vision board is a collage of pictures, statements, ideas that represent things your want to attract to your life. It is just that simple.

So now, let us talk about why you would need a vision board. Many of us focus on the day in and day out things that happen in our lives. However, if the circumstances of our lives are negative, then we tend to focus on that negativity and we miss the wonderful things trying to change our lives. With a vision board, it helps you to see where you want to go instead of where you are. It helps you to focus on the possibilities. So it redirects your energy to stretch beyond the here and now, thus allowing you to attract the positive and eliminate the negative.

Now, let us go off course a bit and talk about the wonder of a vision board party. Sometimes in our lives, we are so busy. We may want to try to create a vision board but left to our devices, it just something that never gets done because there is always something more pressing that cutting out pictures and gluing them to a poster board. Therefore, it never is completed. A vision board party says, "I am going to take a few hours out of my busy schedule hang with some friends and dream. I will laugh, chat, eat and be inspired to achieve my goals with friends that are ready for the a great life." Not only do you get to build some awesome memories with those in attendance of the party but also you get to accomplish something that will change your life and those that attend.

Here are a few tips on having a successful vision board party:

Invite your friends. Do not invite those that have a negative attitude. This party should be the one place you can tap into your inner child. It is time to dream and no dream is too small or big, actually the bigger the better. You can send out invites but a simple email will do just fine for this. Remember it is a time to have fun so do not stress over it. Make sure you take your vitamins and tell your guest to bring their electrifying energy, who knows what will happen and what memories this will bring for years to come.

Request each guest to bring a pair of scissors, glue stick, a stack of old magazines, and an appetizer (dessert, finger foods, bottle of wine or juice). I also include their favorite CD of music what is a party without some dancing music.

Once you have an estimate of how many guest will attend. Go to your local dollar store and buy a poster board for each person attending. (I like to buy different colored ones but you can get all white, it really up to you). You can also purchase a handful of glue sticks to make sure that you have enough in case a guest forgets to bring one. Some markers, crayons, colored pencils and extra scissors are great to have also. If you are an arts and crafts type of individual, swatches of material, lace, beads and gems are a great addition too. (You can even assign certain items to guest if you like.) Do not forget to get some snacks to share and drinks too.

On the day of the party, you can:

Start with introductions and intentions, especially if there are individuals who may not know each other. Have each guest state their name and what they hope to achieve with their vision board.

Put on the music and get to work. Each guest can start with signing the back of the vision board (I do this because it gives me a sense of ownership. Like this is MY vision and it's empowering.) Then start clipping pictures from magazines. Leave no magazine un-shredded. Lay out the general design for your board. I always say put the largest image (which should be your most important desire) in the center of the board.

Make sure they all get it finished that night. Many times people leave with a few things to do to their vision board and never get it done. It is better to leave with a finished board. It is okay to leave some space for additional pictures to be added as you find them but the general idea should be completed at the party. Also, do not make your board to chaotic because you may bring chaos to your life and that would defeat your purpose!

Finally, just eat, drink and be MERRY! Laugh often and dream big!

Now does it really WORK? My answer is YES! Why does it work? Well, if you truly believe that you should live a fulfilling life and have the things you desire on your vision board, and you are open to the realization of your intentions, it will come to you. Do not put a lot of thought in the "how" you just hold on to the “what” will happen. When you are open to your dreams manifesting, they will find their way to you. You work the plan and the plan will work. You look at the board daily. Put it in a place where it is always a reminder of what you want. Attract what you want, deflect what you do not want and you will receive everything on your board. You get what you focus on!

Now start to dream big!


Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group