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Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2010 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Coaching

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Coach Linda Hillman 
Copyright 2010 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Coaching

A Better You, NOW?

Everyone has a “get rich quick” scheme!

Every one has adopted the “name it and claim” fabrication!

Every where there is a “process” or “program” for attracting the love of your life, all the money you desire and the body of a God/dess!

And it seems that everyone is an “expert” of this or a “guru” of that with lofty promises of making you a guru too!

In the words of Malcolm X, You’ve been had! Hoodwinked! Bamboozled and led astray! And not necessarily in this order!

Well DON’T BELIEVE THE HYPE! And it’s all “hype!” You cannot microwave your way to health in 10 minutes! And success is not a mirage! Health, Love, Money and Fame will not come by way of smoke and mirrors! So stop falling for the okie-doke! You will not blink your eyes and land on top of the mountain, neither will you amass fame and fortune in your life by fast talking, quick thinking, scheming lies!
Sorry,  I must keep it 100!  I give it to you straight, no artificial flavors, sugars are additives! Hard work, has become a term of profanity and success has become a con game!

Well I for one have had it! So if you are ready to roll up your sleeves and have the drive, guts and determination to get in the driver’s seat of your life and stop being persuaded by the “green grass” in the other guy’s yard and are ready to take care of your own lawn and sow your own seeds so that you may reap a bountiful harvest, then let’s do it together.

In the words of Michael Jackson, “I’m starting with the man in the mirror and I’m asking him to change his ways. No message could have been any clearer”…IF you want to make this world a better place you gotta start with you.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2010 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Coaching

7 Questions To Finding Your True Passion By Frederic Premji

According to a recent survey, about 75% of the population do not know what their true passion is. Clearly, almost everyone seems to not be doing what they were meant to do. This is an eye-opener because doing what we really love is absolutely necessary if we want to be fully happy. Perhaps this is why there is so much unhappiness going on in our society, people just aren’t doing what they are here on Earth for. Finding your true passion isn’t as simple as it may seem. For some, yes it does come naturally, but most of the time, you have to ask yourself some questions to pinpoint exactly what you were born to do. Here are my 7 questions that can guide you to finding your ultimate passion:


What puts a smile on your face?
Is there a particular event, a particular topic that makes your whole face just lighten up? Whatever it is that makes you smile, and makes you happy whenever you encounter it, this is a sign of something you are passionate about. I truly believe that happiness and passion walk hand in hand. Both require each other. So following what makes you truly happy is a wonderful way to figuring out what you were put on Earth for. Think about something that you do or that perhaps you used to do that brings total peace to you when you do it. Peace is happiness, and happiness is passion.

What do you find easy?
Usually, what we find easy for us to do, will be related to what we are passionate about. It’s very hard to hate something that is very easy for us! For example, let’s say you are naturally good at playing the piano, you will find the activity easy, and this ease makes it much more fun for you. Fun leads to happiness and happiness is synonymous with passion So assess everything that you do, whatever it is that you find really easy and fun, this may very well be your passion. And don’t think that anything is off limits or silly. Some people have taken their passion for skateboarding, drawing, or collecting to full fledged careers. Remember this, you can make a career out of anything you are passionate about.

What sparks your creativity?
One of my passions growing up was hockey. It’s not too surprising, being Canadian and all But I remember playing for hours and hours, and always coming up with different plays, and different methods to score goals. I was always full of creativity when playing hockey. Later in life, I developed similar creativity in business. Think about something in your life where you seem to always expand its horizon, always coming up with new, fun, and exciting ideas relating to that subject. Whatever makes you creative, is probably something that you are very passionate about.

What would you do for free?
In this society, we are ruled by the almighty dollar. That’s the way the system works, and that’s the game we have to play. The problem is, this leads many people to seek making money first, instead of what makes them happy. I have read countless number of stories about stock brokers and doctors for example, leaving their high paying positions to follow what they really love. There is a reason for that. I truly believe that if you follow what you are passionate about without thinking about if it will make you rich or not, you will end up being successful. Doing what you have a passion for brings out your best, and this leads to greatness. Greatness breezes to success. Do you think that the most successful people in the world got to where they are because they wanted to get rich? Absolutely not, they did what they were so passionate about, and their immense success was just a byproduct of their dedication. So think about something that you would just love to do, even if you were not getting paid. Think about something that you look forward to do, something that you wish you could do all the time.

What do you like to talk about?
The topics of conversation we have can definitely tell what we are interested in, and this is a good way to find out what we really enjoy in life. Most of the time, we aren’t totally aware of this. This is why, a very good way to figure this out properly, is to ask your friends. Ask them what they believe you like to talk about the most. Ask them what topic makes your eyes brighten up, and changes your entire behavior. I can guarantee you that some of their answers will be surprising to you. Some of these things weren’t that clear to you, but your friends can see the reaction on your face that you can’t see yourself. Try it out, it’s a very insightful exercise, and one that can direct you closer to figuring out your passion.

What makes you unafraid of failure?
When we do what we are passionate about, we have total confidence in our abilities. This makes us not worry about failing, because in our mind, how can we fail when we do what we love? Doing what you love is a success in and of itself, so failure is like an impossibility. Think of something that you just do or want to do, no matter what. Something that you do not have second thoughts about. Think about something that you feel you must do and that failure is not even a concern of yours, because the mere act of doing it is like the journey and the destination all wrapped up in one. This may very well be your true passion.

What would you regret not having tried?
We all have these dreams, and somehow, life pushes us in another direction, and next thing we know, we are far from those dreams we used to have. If you were at the end of your life, what would you regret not having pursued? What would you have liked to do, that you didn’t get a chance to? Think about what that might be. Whatever it is that you may experience regret now or later on for not having tried, this is a good chance to be your true passion. There is nothing worse than arriving at the end of the journey and having regret. This is why finding your passion, and following it is so important. Live your life so that you do not have regrets.

Article written by Frederic Premji

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2010 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Coaching

The mission of The Destiny Seekers Circle™ is to provide insight and support for the conscious individual in a purposeful setting – focusing on authentic and empowering strategies to help YOU grow to become who you are destined to be.

What is The Destiny Seekers Circle™?
The Destiny Seekers Circle™ is a virtual community of conscious and spiritual individual, where They can come together to receive support, ask for feedback and resources, and discover new and effective strategies for become The person They were created to be in a low-cost coaching environment including monthly group calls, a private forum, and a monthly newsletter “A Better You Now” and weekly motivational e-mails with lots of tips.

“True discovery consists not in finding new landscapes, but in seeing the same landscape with new eyes.”

~ Marcel Proust

Who can join The Destiny Seekers Circle™?
The Destiny Seekers Circle™ is specifically for the individual who would like to receive support in launching a business, writing a book, taking steps toward new relationship, living a dream or vision. Typically speakers, authors, visionary entrepreneurs, stay at home moms/dads, those going through transitions and other that just can’t quite find their place will greatly benefit from this type of setting.

What does The Destiny Seekers Circle™ include?
The Destiny Seekers Circle™ includes:

• One monthly group coaching call – the first Monday of every month at 7PM Eastern, 6PM Central, 5PM Mountain, 4PM Pacific – these calls are open coaching calls, simply call in for your opportunity to receive laser coaching.
• Weekly email empowerment tips, strategies, and support
• Private group forum to ask questions and generate discussions on hot topics
• Support, encouragement, and accountability
• Sharing in successes, visions, and understanding
• Occasional guest experts and bonuses
• 1:1 coaching once a week for 12 weeks
• The Destiny Seekers Circle Journal™ plus…
• Get Inspired CD ($12.95 value Bonus)
• Discounts on ALL live events and coaching programs (Bonus)

“A Master Mind is the harmonious alliance of two or more minds that create a friendly environment to gather, classify and organize new information for fast and effective implementation.” 

~ Napoleon Hill

Why would someone join The Destiny Seekers Circle™?
This is perfect for the individual who occasionally has questions about purpose, destiny, success and meaning. The individual who needs an answer on how to do something, or would like to be a part of a larger community and collaborative effort of support, while achieving goals and making their lives better now. This is for the individual who is tired of the mediocre and mundane. The individual tired of empty promises and pipe dreams and not interested in being plummeted by another get rich quick scheme or dream killing opportunity. So if you are ready to roll up your sleeves and have the drive, guts and determination to get in the driver’s seat of your life and stop being persuaded by the “green grass” in the Joneses yard. If you are ready to take care of your own lawn and sow your own seeds so that you may reap a bountiful harvest, then The Destiny Seekers Circle™ is for you!

Warning: This is for the individual who wants to live as they are supposed to live, the ones that know that they are here for a purpose and given the opportunity they will shine like the radiant, brilliant and unique star they ARE!

How does The Destiny Seekers Circle™ work?
The Destiny Seekers Circle™ is ongoing so it begins for you as soon as you register. You can begin connecting with other members, introduce yourself and ask questions in the private forum. You can stop participating in the circle at any time, no questions asked.

“The only things worth learning are the things you learn after you know it all.” 
~ Harry S. Truman

How can I join The Destiny Seekers Circle™?
It’s simple, just click on the registration link below and get started today. You can join the first month for only $5.00, and Then every month following that you will be billed $15.99/month.

**This is an introductory price and after September 1, 2010. The monthly price will go up to $24.99 and the first month will be $12.00 HOWEVER, not for those already participating in The Destiny Seekers Circle™. **

Here’s the recap of what The Destiny Seekers Circle™ includes

• One monthly group coaching call – The first Monday of every month at 7PM Eastern, 6PM Central, 5PM Mountain, 4PM Pacific – These calls are open coaching calls, simply call in for your opportunity to receive laser coaching.
• Weekly email marketing tips, strategies, and support
• Private group forum to ask questions and generate discussions on hot topics
• Support, encouragement, and accountability
• Meet like-minded colleagues and make valuable connections
• Guest experts and bonuses
• Weekly 1:1 coaching for 12 weeks
• The Destiny Seekers Journal™
• “Get Inspired” CD (12.95 value – added Bonus)
• Discounts on ALL live events and coaching programs – Valued at thousands of dollars – added Bonus)

You get all of this support and more for only $5.00 for your first month and then $15.99 for each additional month you stay in the program. Membership may be discontinued at any time. Remember, you are getting an additional savings for joining during this introductory period. In September the price goes up to 24.99 with the first month being $12.00.

What would happen if you had...

• the opportunity to get ongoing ideas, tips, and inspiration to support you in your search and growth journey to live your authentic, complete and purposeful life and the opportunity to share your services and experiences with other like minded individuals?
• the opportunity to ask simple and easy questions that would ensure that you grow faster, reach more answers, and expand your knowledge?

How different would your life look if you had…

• a safe space to get feedback, encouragement, and accountability on a consistent basis?
• more confidence in achieving your visions and dreams that you are implementing?

Remember the last time you were planning to transition to a new career, relationship, business opportunity, or maybe it was planning a speech, writing that book or etc…, but didn’t feel confident in what you were doing, how successful you would be, and what to say to others who asked what you were doing or thinking?

Just one more thing…

This is a powerful, low-cost solution to getting the support that you need. My hourly fees start at $299 per session – so don’t delay and take advantage of this incredible opportunity today! Remember September 1, 2010, is just around the corner.

Have additional questions, email us now.


 Linda Hillman is the Destiny Empowerment Coach, helping the conscious individual find ways to realize and manifest their authentic, complete and purposeful life. Coach Linda focuses on the end result as a way to grow you to your potential more effectively and efficiently.  SEE The Invisible, ACHIEVE The Impossible! (http://www.destined2bu.com)

**NOTE: Membership benefits are subject to change without notice at anytime.**

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2010 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Coaching

The Dirtiest Four Letter Word by Carl Reid

This article was originally published in The Productivity Institute (PI) Newsletter

When my daughter was about 3 or 4 I began asking her to do things to push her past her limits. She always felt she performed quite well, because she received a lot of encouragement for just attempting to do things most people would say 4-5-6-7-8 year olds aren’t capable of doing. I would get her to do things, like asking her to take her bowl and put it in the sink. Although I knew she couldn’t reach the sink, I just wanted her to try to reach anyway. Dropping the bowl was OK. After a couple of futile attempts, I picked her up so she could place the bowl in the sink. She still felt accomplished in feeling like she still did it herself. Another time I asked her to help me clean an imaginary dirt spot on the wall that was out of her reach. After she tried and figured out she couldn’t reach, I picked her up. She cleaned the spot. She felt very satisfied with her accomplishment.

Not yet 4 1/2 years old, one day I asked her to count to 10. She hadn’t been taught yet, but I thought I would really push her. She responded with the nastiest little word. I told her, if she said that “bad word” again, I would wash her mouth out with soap. I came from the bathroom, with a bar of soap to show her I meant business. I asked her again to count to 10. She said that 4 letter word again, more adamantly. I rubbed my finger across the wet bar of soap and rubbed my fingered across her lips. As soon as she licked her lips, she proceeded to cry from the awful soap taste. She ran to her mother to sooth the distaste on her lips. When I told her mother about my request, she [mother] freaked out. Mother also said the same dirty word, in referring to my daughter’s limited knowledge. I was a maniac, as far as her mother was concerned.

I pulled my daughter from the safety of her mother’s arms. As I visibly rubbed my finger over the soap bar, I asked my daughter to count to 10. She already knew the result of saying the bad 4 letter word. So she thought carefully. The most amazing thing happened. She turned around with her back to me and said “help me daddy”. This was symbolic. She knew every time I picked her up, she always accomplished something.
That dirty word did not appear in my daughter’s vocabulary again, until her second year in high school. She didn’t do well in history. I asked her “what is the problem”. She responded with that dirty word in a complete sentence. I proceeded to the bathroom and she changed her tune with a quick retraction and apology for using that word. So we continued with planning actions for improving her report card. She past all her subjects, including history, on the next report card. It’s phenomenal how eliminating that nasty word helped her accomplish so many things over the years.

The odd thing is this 4 letter word is socially acceptable in any gathering of people. No one gives it a second thought. Very few people realize the damage this nasty word does to other people. It cripples many people. People hear this word, pass it on to other people and more people hurt themselves saying it. Many parents think nothing of saying this word to their children in every day conversation.

People miss out, on opportunities, raises, going to college, moving up the corporate ladder, starting a business, settling a dispute, forgiving a family member, meeting a new friend, taking a trip, learning something new, negotiating a better deal, just by uttering this word constantly. Drum roll please . . . the dirtiest 4 letter word, which should be stricken from the English dictionary, is: Can’t

I can’t do it *It can’t work * You can’t have everything you want * It can’t be done * You can’t do that
Who wants their mouth washed out with soap?

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“No one is a failure, unless they fail to try” -unknown
 
Carl E. Reid landed his first managerial position at age 16. Mr. Reid has over 40 years of business experience, including 26 years as an information technology expert and 15 years as a business career coach. He is CEO of NetTECH Systems Reid & Associates, Inc..  Carl has been a professional blogger and social media expert since 2004. In addition to being a sought after speaker, he publishes Library of Congress recognized newsletter blogs www.SavvyIntrapreneur.com and www.iTechSpeak.com . Carl is Chief Operations Officer for Empowering Today™s (ETP) Network. Email: Carl@success4u2.net - Tel: 201-222-5390.

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Air castles and the beliefs that drive them By Wendy Y Bailey

Sometimes your group learner is "building air castles."  That's when she's not being honest or truthful with herself.  My 79 year old mom says that's what my grandmother called it when you make up stories that have no basis in reality.  Hilarious, heh?

Each person in your group brings her own set of unique experiences to every group coaching session.  These experiences always color what she hears, sees and thinks — and more importantly, what she believes to be true.  Her beliefs shape every resulting action and you're there to help her tune into the truth.
So, what do you do when your group learner is building air castles?
Very simply, you coach!  Building air castles offers a perfect opportunity to laser coach her right there in the midst of the session.  Simultaneously, you encourage all of your group learners to create a listening and supportive circle.  Your learner has an aha moment and sometimes - no, most of the time - the learners within that supportive circle, have their own very personal and powerful breakthroughs too.

One of the five essential areas for transforming your learner via laser coaching is PERCEPTION.  Think of perception as a direct line to your learner's beliefs - the internal place and space from which she operates.  It's the place that speaks to how she they feels, how she reacts, how she responds to any situation she encounters.

Laser coaching helps her to know, feel, think and believe differently.  It's all about shifting the perception and stop her from building air castles.

For ONE LAST TIME, I'm 33 Minute Mastery: Group Coaching in 33 Minutes.  In 33 Minute Mastery, I share techniques on how to shift the beliefs of your learners via laser coaching.  Join me for this last LIVE group coaching experience of one of my bestselling group coaching programs.

Wendy Y. Bailey is a Master Certified Group Coach, Certified Experienced Coach and Certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner. Affectionately called "WendyY" by her business associates, colleagues and friends, she's also the Creator and Founder of Group Coaching Mastery - Master Group Coaching with an NLP Twist. WendyY helps coaches, speakers and trainers learn to create, design, market, fill and deliver bestselling group coaching programs using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (persuasive marketing, language skills and influence strategies.) More about Group Coaching Mastery programs

 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Coaching

Why I Do What I Do?

I love coaching! I approach every new client with enthusiasm because I know I can take them to the next level... and beyond. I know if they stick with me, they'll have what they want in life. I work with people who are looking for more fulfillment in their lives, whether it's to enhance a life that's already satisfactory, or to implement a complete lifestyle or career change. I excel in coaching people from the inside out - making the internal changes as well as the external. My unique coaching process sparks insights, increases personal power and expands my clients' ability to create what they want in a way that lasts a lifetime.

I'm also a very practical and down-to-earth coach. I help clients organize and prioritize everything in their lives, from balancing home and work, to managing a family. And while they're getting organized, they learn how to stop procrastinating, get out of overwhelm and make time for self-care.

Just as in coaching, I have brought that same desire and passion into my writing and speaking. It's not just a career for me but it's a way to leave a great impact on this world.

Be Empowered

Coach Linda Hillman

Copyright 2010 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Coaching

How Come Or Why?

“What does not take me out, makes me stronger.”

Many of us say this phrase after we have come out of a trial or hardship. We tend to get a sense of empowerment from this statement. The real question here is do we truly believe this statement. Is this just one of those statement that sounds good after a period of stressful situations. What if you are still in the midst of your dilemma, can you say this phrase? Can you claim the triumph even then? Do you ask “Why” me, why did I have to suffer? Do you harbor bitterness and unforgiveness?

You see many of us are so preoccupied with the “WHY” something happen that we may never get to the “HOW COME”. With that said, the question becomes, “How come this occurred and what am I suppose to learn? Exploring this can be daunting, so here are a few tips.

You need to ask yourself what is my pain. A doctor prescribes medication because of the symptoms the patient says they are experiencing. More simply put, when you go to the doctor with a pain in your stomach, you describe it to the doctor and he does an examination. With the information you have given him and what he finds through his examination, he then prescribes a medication regiment that will allow healing to occur. Now, it is understandable that the medication itself does not heal the body but what it does do is cause the pain to subside. In the absence of your discomfort, your body can then heal itself. What a concept, the medical profession has taught us to get rid of the pain so the process of healing can happen. If you ask yourself this question, do not use other words like what is the problem or who is my problem. Stay focused on you. Moving from what is my pain to what is the problem, you are minimizing your discomfort. It is like taking an Advil for a toothache. You may feel okay for a while but eventually the pain is going to come back because you have not dealt with the real issue and no healing is occurring.

Knowing what your pain is will lead to, “Why am I stuck?” Many will try to brush past this. If you have ever had an open wound, you know that it must heal from the inside out. This process can take a while and if you are not careful, the skin will begin to close on the surface but the wound is not total healed underneath. When this occurs, you have to reopen the wound to allow the healing to take place correctly. The same is true for inner healing. You must allow the inside to be healed before it will show on the surface. No facades that will hide the festering boil underneath. Being stuck in a rut and not understanding why things happened, can only lead to repetitious behaviors. These behaviors will keep you living in misery and regret, making one bad decision after another because you have not learned how to avoid it.

This is when you have to define the how come. The “how come” is logical reasoning. The “how come” will bring the change in your behavior you have been looking for. It will help you learn the lesson life was teaching you. For instance, maybe you were in that bad situation because you needed to learn self worth. The “how come” only comes with clarity of vision and after you probe deep inside yourself.

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2010 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Coaching

A Woman Healed of Life's Experiences

The one thing we need but many of us struggle to get is respect. In life, we will go through some hard times and if we are lucky, we will be able to come out on the winning side. However, what about the one that are caught in the cracks. Is there hope for the woman whose been abused (emotionally, mentally, physically or socially)? Who is there to let that woman know there is hope in her hopeless situation?


We hear so much about sisterhood yet we are set apart. We gossip about one another, steal each other's men and if we get the chance, we will ruin another reputation so we look good. Now does this sound like sisterhood?

There is a story about a woman, who as a teenager suffered being molested, verbally abused and lived in a house of raging with domestic violence. This woman grew up with anger issues and never tried to deal with them. She had relationship after relationship fail. One day she came to the realization that the life she was living was just a shadow of what could be. She did not have to live with the pain, frustration and depression. She could rise above it. She could be free. However, she knew that wit would take some restoration of her inner emotions. She would have to learn how to look at life differently, not using her own reasoning because it was skewed and fragile.

She sought help from counselors and coaches that help her see past the hurt, habits and hang-ups. She was able to start a relationship on a healthy note and those negative friends – well she was able to influence them to be more positive. This did not happen over night it only started with a single step.

The first step can be the hardest however, if you are truly ready for healing to occur in your life then you will allow this step to take place, including removing all negative and unhealthy influences in your life. Many times, it is what we allow in our lives that hinder us the most. The woman mentioned above had to deal with the past in order to maintain her present and secure her future.

We learned in history that if we do not learn from history it is bound to repeat itself. Well, this is true even in our lives. If we are not willing to learn from bad decisions, our fears, our failure and, even more importantly, our successes then we are bound to repeat them. Dr. Susan Jeffers says, “Life is not a struggle but an opportunity”. Additionally, you only get a single opportunity to make it count. Do not live with regret and remorse. Not to make light of the experiences you have been through, Nevertheless, if she can learn to let go of the pain and anger, then why not you?

Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2009 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Coaching