Why Do We Judge The Inside by the Outside

We have heard the saying don't judge a book by it's cover however we do it anyway. Not just books though, we judge each other. IF we feel that someone can not help us because they don't look the part we will over look them and go to the one we think can help us. Interesting thing is most of the time the very one that can help you is the one you just pass by. 


We are so wrapped up in titles, big names and what we think are proven facts that we forget everyone had to start somewhere. I get it, we want results and we want to go where we feel those results can be found. However, in the scheme of things do we want results at the cost of quality. 


Let me share with you a story and hopefully this will get my point across to you more clearly. 

In 1884 a young man died, and after the funeral his grieving parents decided to establish a memorial to him. With that in mind they met with Charles Eliot, president of Harvard University. Eliot received the unpretentious couple into his office and asked what he could do. After they expressed their desire to fund a memorial, Eliot impatiently said, "Perhaps you have in mind a scholarship."

"We were thinking of something more substantial than that...perhaps a building," the woman replied. In a patronizing tone, Eliot brushed aside the idea as being too expensive and the couple departed. The next year, Eliot learned that this plain pair had gone elsewhere and established a $26 million memorial named Leland Stanford Junior University, better known today as Stanford!

Many times unassuming individuals can hold the key to what we need but we are so wrapped up in judging what we believe to be so about them that we miss it altogether. we cannot afford to let our minds play tricks on us. You can not judge a person by what you see on the outside. Listen, in some areas people love to put on the hits, meaning they can make you think they have money, wealth and answers, however, taking a closer look they are all talk and no action. Then there is the person that you see with the hole in their jeans and dirty shoes that can make the impossible happen for you. Looks can be deceiving. 



So do me a favor, the next time you start to judge a person remember this little quote from Will Smith.

 "NEVER make permanent decisions on temporary feelings." 

It could be the very person you are willing to overlook is the one person you need the most. Take a chance you just might be pleasantly surprised.


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Coach Linda Hillman 
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