Many of us deal with our own misconceptions of what is reality for
us. We find ourselves believing lies we tell ourselves based on assumptions we
have made about others. Now this is interesting because we are the
same ones championing the statement, "That's why you should never assume
things" or "You know what they say about assumptions"
Recently, I had a
client that came to me with a need to be free of negative thoughts. They were
experiencing depression and wanted to be free. The whole first month of coaching
were riding them of the assumptions that were made about life, God, their
family, friends and co-workers.
Day
2:
The Problem:
Many of us, if we are honest with ourselves, have thousands of
assumptions running through our heads daily. We think we are not loved by
family and friends, we believe that things are done intentional
especially when they hurt us, we try to figure others out before they get the
upper hand on us and the list goes on and on. We are
a suspicious breed. We are suspicious of others and they
are suspicious of us. Here's the deal, if we can convince ourselves
that we are worthless, useless, and can’t do anything right it does not take a
rocket scientist to know that we will never accomplish what we are trying to
accomplish.
If we spend our time fighting against our creative
nature, not accepting our flaws as well as our strong points, we have
defeated ourselves and there is no one else to blame for that. There are other
elements that get in our way too. When it comes to the way we think. We can let
outside influences nibble away at our resolve. For example:
Our parents always said, you will never amount to anything, or maybe
someone said you were stupid, you did not have what it
takes...etc.
We allow our thoughts to build fortresses in our mind. We start to
build our lives on these fortresses and they become our core values. They
become what we believe more than anything else. This is why many of us will not
go after our dreams, or take a risk that may cause our lives to develop in a
different way. We allow our thoughts to form our words and our words
shape our actions. Our actions then rule our lives. We are in a vicious circle.
No wonder we can achieve the things we keep telling ourselves we want. The
things that we long for, wish for and truly desire. We have shut down our
ability to create anything but what we believe we can
have. Unfortunately for us, what we believe we can have is absolutely
NOTHING!
The Solution:
1. Stop lying to
yourself. Realize that you are not seeing things clearly
2. Make a decision
today that you will only believe the truth.
3. Find out the
truth of the matter. Get in connection with people that are determined to
accomplish their goals and thus will inspire you to do the same.
4. Write out
everything. When you see yourself writing lies. BURN them. This action will
start to cause the lies to do them same in your mind. (Figuratively) When you
tell yourself a lie that lie will go up in smoke just like the ones
that you burned.
5. Replace the
lies with the truth. Let the truth come from everywhere, do not limit how the
truth comes to you.
6. Remember
yourself often of YOUR truth.
7. Whenever you
feel like you may speak a lie, make sure tell the truth instead.
The Benefit:
One of my favorite
books is The Bible. In The Bible there is a scripture that speak volumes in
this area. Romans 12:1-2. In short what it says is that you cannot be
conformed by the way the world thinks but you have to be transformed by the
renewing of your mind. This transformation will cause you to understand the
plan for your life. Knowing this plan is your reasonable service. The whole
point is simply this; once you can conqueror what you think you can conquer
what you can do.
Be Empowered
Coach Linda Hillman
Copyright 2012 Destined 2 B U Empowerment Group
